Sharing or splitting the holidays?

Each year I want to be on a Mexican beach by New Year's, just us two, but my partner pushes for bigger parties.

Our families are about 12 hours away from each other, so we usually do Thanksgiving with one side, Christmas with the other, then switch who gets which holiday for the next year. Once we have a house and are able to host, we'll probably pick up Christmas since we both have winter birthdays.

We share them! For thanksgiving we do brunch with my family and dinner with his. Same with Christmas- we go to my parents really early in the morning for breakfast and around lunchtime head to his. Easter my parents come to his. Our families live probably 20 minutes apart so its pretty easy but we tend to hit my parents earlier because his family is just so freakin huge that we have to allot them more time.

My family is 5 hours away and his are 30 minutes away so we take turns each year.

His family turns Christmas into a 3/4 day long affair, so we usually spend Christmas day with my family. Then the other 2/3 is with his. Thanksgiving is always with mine because of dietary reasons. And other holidays are usually with my family since it's smaller and we don't see them as often

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Both of our families are in the same city as us, so we have sharing arrangements for the holidays. We see his for Thanksgiving lunch and mine for Thanksgiving dinner. For Christmas Eve and Day, since both our families tend to celebrate on the Eve, we made an agreement to alternate the 2 days with each family each year.

We have three families, two on my side, one on his. And really it's just become a free for all. Since we are the ones who travel to them, parents get to claim 1 fall/winter holiday, and whoever books it first, gets it. My husband and I confirmed thanksgiving on accident with my mom and his mom on accident, so we split up on that one. My dad claimed Christmas 2 months ago, so we will travel 6 hours for that and stay there for about 3 days, come home the day after Christmas to his parents and stay the night, then go do Christmas/new years with my mom. This also doesn't take into account all of the extended family invites. Those we typically split up, or choose based on who is hosting

My mom is almost 2 hours away, Dad is 6 hours, and his parents are 45 minutes, so they get the majority of the other yearly holidays.

I'm very impressed how many of you have agreements and are flexible! These are very helpful. We would have to travel to either family. I am between ditching both our families, or my husband and I splitting up and doing our own thing. I know people who do both styles, and more and more I think it's fine for a couple to not be together all the time (except for New Year's). Or maybe I'm just not into holidays . . .

We don't really have a set routine for holidays. We did Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas with his family for a couple years, then switched it up and spent the holidays just us for a couple years (our families each live 4 hours away in opposite directions), then switched it up again the next year and spent holidays with friends. This year, we spent Thanksgiving just us, and we are still trying to figure out our plans for Christmas.

We split the holidays with our family’s. We would go to dinner early on one side of family and then go visit the other family on thanksgiving. On Christmas would go to a Christmas brunch with his family and Christmas dinner with my family. This year Christmas dinner will s at the same time so we going to his family for Christmas dinner and go to my family later