should a couple have a baby before marriage or after - and how long ?

A couple shouldn't have a baby before marriage and they should wit for at least two years of marriage to have a baby

A couple shouldn't have a baby before marriage and they should wit for at least two years of marriage to have a baby

We both can't wait to have kids but we both also know if we want the wedding that we are planning we have to wait. We plan on waiting a couple of months after we get married before we even try.

I would wait till after you get married. Also make sure you both want to try to have children because it will be hard on your marriage or relationship if one isn't ready to be a parent yet.

My opinon is that you should wait till after marriage and not a minute after! Good luck♥

God will bless you woth a child when it is time but discussing and preparing for that blessing to the best of your ability is important. Yes, I understand that you will never be financially able. what i mean is that you have ready what you can to provide the best life for your child.

My fiance and I decided to have a baby before we became engaged. We knew we were in it for the long haul. We felt ready and we felt like if God didn't see fit for us to have a baby then it wouldn't happen. Our son is 5 months old now. We just got engaged November 29th. We knew we were getting married though. Was just waiting for the ring. Now we are planning our wedding and Trent will be our ring bearer. He'll be 1 and a half by the time we get married. I say if BOTH of you are ready or think you're ready, try for one when you want. Babies aren't easy though. Now folk are saying that we shouldn't have a big celebration because we have a child and live together. Screw that. I do what I want. And so should you. By the way, when I became pregnant, I was just graduating from undergrad. Now I'm in grad school part time. I've never really had a career so make a choice thats right for your life. I can stay home with my baby for different reasons but you might not be able to

I noticed that everyone’s response to this posting is quite different and that is because there is not one couple in this world with the same exact circumstances. The decision of when to have a baby should not be based on someone else’s personal beliefs or preferences. A decision as immensely important and life altering as bringing a child into this world should be made based on your circumstances; your beliefs and your goals. If you are not sure if now is the right time, then it probably isn’t. Discuss it with your fiancé/husband/boyfriend/partner. Only the two of you can make the right choice for you.

I would also like to address the topic of children from multiple marriages or relationships. Not everyone is perfect. In my case, I became pregnant when I was seventeen (while using birth control and protection) and my family said the only way that they would accept my decision to keep the baby was if I married the father. Consequently, that man turned out to be abusive and I had to leave him and raise our now seven year old on my own. Now I have met a new man that adores my little family and I adore him. He asked me to marry him on New Year’s Eve 2008 and I of course said yes. Now not a person in the world could tell me that having another baby with this man once we are married (or not married) is the wrong way to do things. How dare anyone say that such a thing is wrong if they are ignorant to the circumstances in which multiple children from multiple marriages may occur. I am shocked at how many people can place judgment on something they do not take the time to understand or even try to identify with. I want more than anything in the world to create a normal family environment for my son; the one he was cheated out of from the beginning and if that means getting married a second time then that is what I will do, and to me that is in no way the wrong way to do things.

Good luck to anyone in the midst of making the decision to have a baby. I think making a baby with someone you love is beautiful no matter what your circumstances may be. If you are a loving couple with the ability to raise a child in a safe environment then go for it! It’s your decision to make, not anyone else’s.

I had a 2 motnh old and i am getting married in 8 months. why be prego on the wedding, that what i would say.