Should I Cancel my Bridal Shower?

Lmfao. I was taking to the other comment.

It's not gross- wtf?? How is it gross? Like is it oozing something!?

lmfao get over it.

Honestly. It's a fricken party. It's either you're with it on not with it. Simple as that!

Greedy & tacky? Lmfao. I didn't ask for gifts neither did my FH. If anything I spent more money to accommodate my guests than anything. Because I was happy to do so.

It's not always about gifts it's about having fun and spending time with your friends & family.

@F2B I was actually under the assumption that I was talking to a group of dogs, cats, and other assorted animals about wedding advice. Is that not what this is....???

Not throwing the shower just for the gifts, I thought it was customary to have it. First one in my group of friends getting married so I have no idea how its done. Not planning just so people can give me gifts. I was planning it to get the girls together before my wedding and just have fun.

@Kathryn

I am definitely a cat. But apparently I'm the only one. I don't know what to say - consider my world changed forever.

Do what makes you happy, just work it girl.

People say there are rules. Whatever. Do it. You'll have fun.

Let me know if you need help with anything.

@OP You might not be throwing it for the gifts, but thats not how other people will take it. I am the first one in my group of friends to get married too, so I totally get it!! It's a learning curve.

If you want to get the girls together before the wedding and just have fun, then just plan a regular get together! It doesn't have to be wedding related. Get some friends together for lunch, have a cookout, go out for drinks. It doesn't have to be a shower or wedding related event!!

OP, if you're trying to have a get together and it's not about gifts, then it's not a shower. Why don't you keep your party and call it a girls' night out or brunch or whatever it is, and don't make it about your wedding at all?

If someone is having a shower, I automatically start looking at their registry to get them a gift.

So if your intent is to not ask for gifts and just have a get together, don't call it a shower.

And "You do you boo" is not good advice.

OP- Sorry you don't like the advice you are giving but you asked. The majority except (Yes) are telling you this is rude and to not do it. You are obviously going to do it anyways, not sure why you bothered asking.

If you are just throwing it to get people together I would call it something different. Like a PP had said, a bridal shower is to "shower" the bride with gifts that she will need as a new bride. This is just like a baby "shower" to shower the mother with gifts she will need for the baby.

OP: If you really want to host a get together with your family and friends you could always host a luncheon. Just make sure you distinguish that it is NOT a shower. Be careful how you word things and invite everyone to meet and greet type of deal.

Then what's the magical phrase I should call for us sitting in a rented room, eating cupcakes, snacks and getting drunk at 2:00 on a Sunday.?

Please grace me with your wonderful advice all knowing brides

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@Breanna I call that brunch.

Why do you have to rent a place? you want gifts there is no getting around that.

WHY don't you cancel this party you are throwing yourself like 20 PP suggested. If not, WHY did you even ask?

I had high hopes that you wouldn't turn this into a "bride bashing" but snarky comments like that are going to bring on the snarky comments.

To answer your question...you could see about changing the time and add something about "Brunch and Bubbly" and do it as just a normal brunch. As if you weren't getting married and you were just celebrating friends and a good time. It is just to get people together.

ETA: Voila!

"Good friends, light fare & fabulous conversation

Come meet the girls for

Brunch"

Add nothing about a wedding.

Wow, really? People are trying to give you advice that YOU asked for and youre going to get shitty?

I suggested calling it something else so that you can still have your shower without it being a "shower" (as in gifts) but since that obviously pissed you off Im only left to assume it's because you actually want the gifts. Never mind, hun. Have your shower, get side eyed. Ill be at my BRUNCH being a good, etiquette following bride that I always aspire to be. Bye.

Cupcake and Boozefest

Who wouldn't come to that?

Wow, some ppl can b somewhat harsh. I don't think she was really ask 4 gifts (but info just in-case), I think she just went bout all wrong. Instead I wouldn't put any registry info like Christina W. post unless someone asked, their presence should b (especially; if ur throwing it) the main focus.

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