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Maira
Just Said Yes October 2021

Should i change my bachelorette trip and plan?

Maira, on February 26, 2020 at 11:04 PM Posted in Parties and Events 1 10
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My wedding it’s on September 19, 2020. So I am having 5 bridesmaids and two of them end up getting pregnant. One it’s due in August 7, 2020 and the other September 17, 2020 so I don’t even know if she will make it to the wedding. We will find out once the weeding gets closer.

Anyways we were talking about where to go and they all agree to go to Hawaii if we find cheap prices. We found good prices to go in May and they 5 of them agree to go plus I invited 2 more girls come. So we where going to be 8 of us in total. 2 of my bridesmaids bought their tickets plus the other two friends who I invited. After sending messages on a group message confirming we bought the tickets my two preggos call me to let me know they can’t make it since their doctor told them they can’t trouble to a tropical places than the other bridesmaid who it’s not pregnant txt me she can’t make it either because of money situation. I mean I understand the ones who are pregnant but why would the other cancel after she agree with the price of the flights! 3/5 girls can’t make it to my bachelorette trip and we already bought tickets but we have 24hrs to cancel the flight after buying them.

My question is should I cancel the trip and find a better place for my pregnant ladies to go and for the other bridemaid who cant make it because of her “budget” when she at first didn’t had a problem with it until she heard the pregnant bridesmaids couldn’t make it!?

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Latest activity by Pattie, on February 28, 2020 at 1:49 PM
  • Onya
    Expert October 2020
    Onya ·
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    I️ wouldnt Try to make your one friend feel bad about her budget. Even if she agreed with flights things change. Maybe she was trying to make it work for you. Why not still go on the trip with your friends that can make it? If you made plans for a trip you must really want one and not a normal party. Because a party in your hometown would be my next suggestion. But I️ say Go. Have fun with those who can attend. Everyone’s still going to have an amazing time.
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  • Nakesha
    Dedicated February 2021
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    I think part of it depends on where you're holding your wedding. I would hold a conversation with her, HONESTLY, to find out what happened and what changed. Maybe the flight cost was fine but meal prices and the cost of a hotel were too much. Maybe, if you recently said you're getting married somewhere other than where you live, that cost was a factor. Maybe the cost of a dress, hair, makeup, shoes, the trip, bachelorette party and a gift were more expenses than she planned on. Maybe she's just trying to be a good friend to all of you and doesn't know how to say it.
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  • D
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    Hawaii is pretty expensive for a bachelorette party. Maybe her initial excitement got the best of her but then she factored in the money and reality hit her. I would just go with the friends that still want to go and maybe find 2 more people to fill the spots.
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    I would cancel. A trip to Hawaii is a lot to ask for a bachelorette trip, when there are plenty of other great trips you could take for a lot less expensive. Plus, I would think you would want all of your BM's to be able to attend. I think as a group you should come up with a cheaper option that everyone can attend.

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  • J
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    Jaime ·
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    Things often seem to change when it goes from the planning stage to the actual "it's time to put down money" stage. Sometimes people get swept up in everyone else saying yes when they are worried about budgets and feel they have no other choice but to say yes to avoid being that one person who is "ruining" the trip. Hawaii seems like a pretty extravagant trip to me. Can you regroup and come up with something that more of your ladies can participate in?

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  • Renay
    Devoted April 2020
    Renay ·
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    Ultimately its up to you, but just as a different perspective, I have 9 bridesmaids and invited 3 non bridesmaids to the bach weekend in Louisville. I had 6 total go, and I was REALLY upset. But it ended up being a great time and I wouldn't trade the memories with the girls that went for the world. Its not about how many get to go, its about the experience of going.

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  • Mandi
    Master October 2020
    Mandi ·
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    I have 2 pregnant bridesmaids, and 1 who just had a baby. They chose to have the bachlorette closer to home. A small bummer. But keeping them safe and comfortable and under budget is most important.
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  • Anna
    Super August 2020
    Anna ·
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    It's up to you. Personally I would do something closer so your pregnant friends can join in . Hawaii is a super expensive bachelorette though I have to admit- and it goes beyond the cost of flights. The accommodations and food are big money. Not trying to slam destinations bachelorettes- mines in Vegas. But, as I am currently planning a honeymoon in Hawaii- I know how pricey it is! Maybe your other friend realized she just couldn't swing it.

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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
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    I would just go with the girls that can go and enjoy your vacation! 6 out of my 9 bridesmaids went to my bachelorette, it was totally fine.

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  • Pattie
    Expert June 2020
    Pattie ·
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    Its your bachelorette. Go as planned. Regarding your other bridesmaid that is experiencing a tighter budget than initially anticipated, thats not uncommon. Adulting is hard haha! I'd still move forward. You can always do something more low key, or just have them come to the wedding shower if you are having one of those.


    My maid of honor lost her job, canceled my bachelorette, and was iffy for a while if she could even swing making it across country for the wedding. Life happens. You just gotta roll with it.

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