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Beginner September 2022

Should i change my date?(sensitive)

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Aerial, on August 17, 2022 at 9:33 AM

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This is becoming an issue and causing a lot of anxiety for me. My sister is still throwing jabs at me that she knows will hurt me and seems like she's trying to get my attention in a very immature way tbh( I have not communicated her with her at all. I am ignoring it). This is starting to get under...

My sister is likely to keep her behavior about her birthday(9/20) being close to our wedding date every year and our anniversary being close as well. I only believe this just, because how she proved me wrong that I thought she would just be happy for me, but instead has seemed to make this about her.

I am wondering if I should change it from 9/16 to 9/30?

Also, opinions on still inviting her I am open on still.

we are getting married in a Courthouse then having a small dinner with close family and my best friend and his close friends.

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Beginner September 2022
Aerial · on August 18, 2022 at 11:41 AM
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I am in no way thinking that way. I really want my sister to be there. I did not change the date. I kept it, because of how much changing it made me feel mentally. I am kind over it at this point. She may be throwing a fit, but it does not mean her birthday does not exist anymore just because I am getting married 4 days before her. I am not trying to hurt her feelings, but I also felt like 9.23.22 would make it worse wedding date. L
I kept thinking like what if I get pregnant and have a baby on her or her daughters birthday? Will I be told to suck it in or get induced sooner. I have gotten used to a lot of things not revolving around me around my birthday. If someone wants to do anything with me or family then I just plan it. It is a really big headache to overthink about.
Birthdays do mean a lot. I love hearing happy birthday and seeing close friends and family as well but if someone is doing something near that day I am not sure how much control I have over that. I had a friend have a house warming/halloween party on my bday I was like whatever cool drinks and food and friends all in one place lol
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Rockstar October 2023
Michael · on August 18, 2022 at 1:20 PM
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We see a lot of family and friends react weird to our wedding plans. Some of it has to be jealousy about the wedding. Maybe the parents can find out what is up with the sister. It does not sound like it was such a pattern just repeating itself.
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