So we're getting married in Europe, and we know that we're asking so much of our guests to travel the distance and spend the money to celebrate with us there. We have communicated that we completely understand that it's not possible for some and so we don't want people to feel this obligation to go if it's difficult for them. Coupled with that, we don't have a formal wedding party since our guest list is smaller and the friends we've invited would all be considered part of our wedding party.
Now this takes me to the topic at hand - since we don't have a wedding party, maybe this is a reason why I don't have any of my girlfriends taking initiative to plan a bachelorette party for me, which is okay and I am trying my best to plan everything. My best friend, who was the only one I invited to come dress shopping with me, is like my unofficial maid of honor, and I've told her this, but she basically said that all summer she would not be able to come to my bachelorette party because she is planning to study for an important board exam. So this makes her automatically not a potential person to help me with planning... On top of that, my friends are scattered throughout the state and some across the country. Basically out of 8 girls, only 2 have been really flexible and excited to just celebrate with me, and have expressed that they're down for doing whatever sounds like a good time for me - which ideally would be going to Cancun (it's a short and cheap flight for us on the coast), relax on the beach with tequila shots, and enjoy some spa time. I have another friend who does want to come, but she's a little further away and has a lot more restrictions - she doesn't want to drive at the destination that she would fly to (she would need to fly even if we do something more local), she can't take time off and so she can only fly on like a Friday late evening (which means someone will need to be available to pick her up and drop her off according to her schedule), and she's more cost conscious (so she wants to find the cheapest flights but that poses difficulties when picking a location for the bachelorette). It had seemed like Cancun would be challenging for her and she kept expressing that something "local" is easier, even though most of the local options really didn't seem like my cup of tea. In an effort to pick something that seemed would be more accessible to a greater majority, I picked something local and now even that is challenging for them to attend. I completely understand that people have other things going on and the financial implications in addition to our destination wedding, and at the same time I'm a little bummed about the way my friends have responded. I'm at the point of just wanting to scrap the whole idea of a bachelorette party because it doesn't seem like there's much excitement about it and the entire planning has fallen on me - I'm exhausted and I don't want to force a bachelorette party that (1) very few people will attend and (2) isn't even how I would do it. I feel the bridezilla in me coming out over this, and I don't want to be that person, but is it bad if I just don't bother with having a bach party at all? I'm not even excited after all of this anymore.
Note: We didn't have an engagement party and I doubt there will be anything like a bridal shower (who would bother throwing one? lol), so this was the one "extra" thing that seemed like a nice experience to have but maybe it's just too much.
