Should i have my step daughter in the wedding?

I’m having both my soon to be step daughters and jr bridesmaids (10 & 9)... I haven’t given them much say on things because it is my wedding and they are getting as much say as the bridesmaids lol they always have something to complain about but they are excited! They think flower girls are more important tho so they have no ideas how weddings actually work

I never had a doubt about having my stepdaughters in our wedding. I just think it's a great way to bond, and let them know that we are part of the same family. Even though we aren't close, I still feel like they are my children (FH has always treated my children as his); and the grandchildren are mine, now, as well! I just think it's a nice gesture. We have seven children all together; three of them are adults.

View Quoted Comment Completely understandable when you explain that there are some "issues" (maybe not the best word). I was thinking that she was close with her father and lived near by.

My stepdaughter will be 20 at my wedding and I’m not having a wedding party. I was wondering if I should include her in anything... we are not close and when she dies call it’s about money or a favor. Her and her father do talk everyday and she is in the 2 states away. What did you end up doing ?

View Quoted Comment Hi Nikki,
Since we are having a wedding party, I did ask if she would like to be in the wedding as a bridesmaid and she said yes. In your case, maybe your step daughter can participate in other ways. Like help decorating, helping you try on dresses etc. Your step daughter and mine are similar in some ways but they will still be Family once we say "I Do". I feel like as long as they feel included they will be happy.. Hope I was helpful.