Should i invite my dad?

Kelly I m sorry for what you have gone through. This is a decision only you can make but I will say this you do not have to "protect" your abuser and if other family members decide not to come because of your choice thats on them. You do what's best for you, sending lots of love and strength to you!

This is something only you can answer. Do not invite abusers to any event. Are you working with a therapist? They can guide you through the ins and outs of this process, as well as what to say to someone else. If your relatives don’t accept your decision, that is on them. Do you have a trusted family member you can talk to throughout this and see how they react? Family should support you through anything. On the same token, abusers are skilled at conning everyone. If you don’t want him attendance so keep your stress level down, follow your gut and don’t invite him. Especially if you know he will abuse other guests as well. Let security know to not let him in if he does show up. Best of luck!

Hi Kelly Congratulations to you both and my dear only you can make that decision. And if you are still in each other lives maybe this maybe the time that you will have a better relationship with him. But this is a sticky subject so I am going to just say it's how you feel no one else and dont let no pressure you on this decision ok. I hope that everything works out for you

Hi Kelly, this is a tricky one that many people have discussed in varying terms on this forum. It's a hard situation. Since you've clearly said you don't want him there, I'd simply not invite him. I know that can cause drama, but in my opinion, his presence will be more disruptive to you on the day. My situation is different, but I cannot even imagine looking into the crowd at my wedding and seeing my abuser. And if you're worried about him potentially insulting your nonbinary friends, whether to their faces or not, then that's just more reason to not have him there.

As others have said, therapists are incredible at helping you work through these scenarios and the feelings that come with them, and finding good solutions. I don't think I'd have made it this far in wedding planning without mine.

I want to start by saying I’m sorry you even have to deal with this. If you’re on Instagram, the owner of my wedding venue sort of just touched on this subject (not abuse per but estranged parents/siblings). Check out her latest post at @weddingtalk901. I thought it was very helpful.