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Stephanie
Super July 2020

Should i Invite my Sister?

Stephanie, on October 18, 2019 at 3:55 PM

Posted in Family and Relationships 30

OK WeddingWire Ladies...I'm about to put ya'll all into my business. Well, only a little bit. So, I have an older brother who is 42 and two younger sisters. One who is 34 and the other is 20. My brother does not really support my relationship with my FH although he says he does, his actions speak...

OK WeddingWire Ladies...I'm about to put ya'll all into my business. Well, only a little bit. So, I have an older brother who is 42 and two younger sisters. One who is 34 and the other is 20. My brother does not really support my relationship with my FH although he says he does, his actions speak louder. So I am wondering if he should be invited to my wedding also. My bigger issue is my 34 year old sister whom I love dearly and we can have the most beautiful relationship and I know this because its happened before, but right now we are not speaking. This is not the first time we have not been on speaking terms, but for some reason, this time, I am no longer hurt or bothered by it. I feel kinda "over it" a this point. Our father recently passed away in August 2019 and during the time of me planning our father's funeral, my sister, the 34 year old has a a lot to say about me on a phone call with my youngest sister who had her on speaker and 34 year old didn't know I was around to hear. She spoke on how she hated me, doesn't feel I deserved any of my dad's insurance money, said that our dad didn't like me, and how he doesn't support my relationship with FH. There's is so much more to the history of our relationship that I would be typing til next Thursday. I am not the type of person to play victim, I accept my wrongs and own up to them, I don't like drama, I am an easy going person, but my sister is the type to get mad when she is not the center of attention. She caused drama at my baby shower because it was not all about her. She even tried to be with my FH before he and I were serious. Also, my sister got married about 4 years ago and she kept it a secret from me. My whole family kept it a secret because she decided she didn't want me there. That hurt. A part of me wants to be the bigger person AGAAAAIN and invite her, but the other part of me is SO TIRED of being the bigger person and accept that our relationship will never be what it should be and I also feel that she will somehow find a way to ruin my day. My FH is over it and all of her drama. What would you ladies do? FH and I both decided early on that we only wanted guests at our wedding that genuinely love and support us as a unit. Family or not, if there is no support, you will not be there.

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  • Caitlin
    Devoted September 2021
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    You answered your own question love. ♥️ I think it's perfectly acceptable for her not to be at your wedding if she went to such great lengths to keep you from hers.
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  • Mandee
    Devoted September 2020
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    Darling my entire maternal side of the family won't be invited to the wedding. FH and I have been dating for ten years and will finally get married next October. I have already put my foot down with my parents about who will and will not be invited to OUR wedding. DO NOT LET THEM GUILT YOU into inviting people you don't want there!

    If you think for one second that they will behave for your special day when they have shown absolutely NO RESPECT for you or your FH, then you're wearing your rose colored glasses. Don't let them take away your joy and peace and CUT THEM OUT!

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  • Braya
    Savvy June 2021
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    I’m in this boat with a few relatives. Cousins I grew up with like siblings and an aunt but to be honest I decided each relationship has to be looked at individually. If you don’t deal with them in your day to day they don’t need to be there, if they don’t support you and your union they don’t need to be there, family didn’t mean you turn a blind eye to anything. You are doing nothing wrong is selecting the people that make you happy. I’m heaving drama off my list
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  • Jessie
    Devoted September 2020
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    I was prepared to say you might regret not having her there... but f**k that! Your day, do whatever you want. She's done you wrong too many times and doesn't deserve to be apart of your special day. If she already tried something with your FH and tried to ruin your baby shower, there isn't a doubt in my mind she will try to ruin this too.
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  • Stephanie
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    Caitlin, thank you so much❤
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  • Stephanie
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    You're right Jessie. Thank you dear❤
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  • Stephanie
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    Braya, thank you so much. I'm so over the drama sis. Good luck to you.
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  • Stephanie
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    Mandee, thank you so much. I to on have been with FH for 10 years and no one has respected our relationship even after all this time. Its sad. I wish you well my dear❤
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  • Renee
    Super October 2020
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    Wow, I'm sorry she said all that hurtful stuff while you were dealing with that kind of loss. And sorry for your loss. Personally I wouldn't invite her. After all that, I would cut ties with her. Plus if you and your FH just want people who support you at your wedding, I wouldn't invite her for that reason alone.

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  • Stephanie
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    Renee, thank you so much. It was definitely hard to deal with on top of losing my father, but I've kinda accepted that it is what it is with her. I will love her from afar....faaaar away. That's all I have for her at this point. Thanks for the insight.

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