Should I let them bring their boyfriends??

We invited everyone that was in a relationship at the time we sent our invites. As far as your situation is concerned, I would just make sure you are consistent. If you're not letting cousin a bring her bf then cousin b shouldn't either.

Invite the kid you know, and not the other two.

that's what I would do.

Everyone in a relationship should be invited with their boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance/husband/wife/whatever, regardless of whether you've met them

We only invited those couple we knew were serious, engaged or married. Everyone else was given an invite for themselves only.

I disagree with @Kate. That is ideal, sure, but only if your budget is insane. We are only allowing married, engaged, or "married" (ie our few aunts and uncles who never plan on marrying but have been with their SO for YEARS). Only people allowed a generic Plus One are our siblings. Sorry, but honestly, I'm not paying for your bf/gf/hookup.

You're over thinking it. Do not invite the two that you've never met. Once you make an exception for someone other people will try to take advantage of you.

I'm letting certain people bring plus ones. My MOH is bring her boyfriend, totally cool with that. But Aunt Susan who has a different boy toy every month is not going to have a plus one.

I agree with Kate. Anyone who is in a relationship should be invited with their partner.

Just because people aren't married or engaged doesn't mean they aren't in a serious relationship. I have many guests who have been with their bf / gf for well over a year, or more, and some who are living together but not engaged or married. I'm sure many of you were in the same situation befor getting engaged to your FH.

It would be incredibly rude of me not to include these partners just because they don't meet some arbitrary cut off of being engaged or married. They are still serious and are still a social unit and should be invited together. Their partners are not "hook-ups".

Nope @Marisa - No "insane" budget here. but I was able to accommodate my guests appropriately by budgeting to include everyone. it wasn't that difficult honestly and it's not an exception. I would be pissed if my now-husband wasn't invited to a family wedding when we were "just dating" and we only "just dated" for six months, so why would i want to piss someone else off like that? i don't know anything about their relationship

How old are your two cousins? If they're 18plus their boyfriends should absolutely be invited. Under 18? Not required. Also, you should call your other cousin and explain that you forgot to put her boyfriends name on the invitation and he is absolutely invited. Adult couples should always, always be invited together (regardless of if you've met them).

ETA "plus" - the plus symbol doesn't show up! +

100% agree with Kate.

It depends. How old are they? Any one over 18 and in a serious relationship I would probably let them invite a guest. However I think your aunt shouldn't really have asked you if they could bring their boyfriends...if the invitation didn't say name and "guest" then that should have been a clear indication.

I'm also in the same mindset as Kate. I'd feel wrong if we didn't invite the SO's. I'd make room for as many as I could. I was given the same consideration when my fiancee and I were "just dating," so I couldn't see any other option, personally.

It's your choice... just be consistent and stick to your guns either way.

18+ and relationship = guest for me. Though your aunt was wrong to ask you about it.

I say 19 and under, no dice on the boyfriend thing. 19 and up and in a serious relationship I would say OK, but it can't be a newly acquired relationship, meaning, within the last 2 to 3 months. Since our wedding is smaller (90 guests) we can't afford to give up seats to just anyone. If my cousin wants me to meet her latest and greatest thrill she'll just have to wait until family reunion time or the next family BBQ.

I would invite boyfriends if they're in a serious relationship, even if you don't know them. I got left off a few wedding invites when FH and I were dating, even 2-3 years into our relationship, and it sucks. I know all of us can agree that we were in a serious relationship with our FHs before we were engaged.

I'm picking and choosing who can and can not bring a date. I'm only allowing people in long-term relationships bring their date. I have 20yr old cousins with boyfriends that I'm not allowing dates, but I have 27/30 yr old cousins who live with bf/gf and been together longer then 3 yrs that I am allowing to bring.

If they are kids, no. If they are adults, yes. Would you want to attend a wedding with only your parents?

If they're teenagers, I would say no. My aunt asked if my cousin could bring his girlfriend who he had been dating for a few weeks. They broke up a couple weeks after the wedding, glad I said no to that one. If they're adults and it's a significant relationship then I'd say to invite them, even if you haven't met them.

It sounds like they are teens if their mom is asking for them. So no, don't invite them. If they are adults and their mom is asking on their behalf, still no, because it can't be that serious if they can't call you themselves!