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Dedicated March 2014

Should I let them bring their boyfriends??

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Angela, on January 28, 2014 at 8:23 AM

We just sent out our invites and most people have gotten theirs now. My aunt texted me on Sunday to let me know that her daughters had gotten their invites and they were wondering if they could bring their boyfriends. I was prepared for this, thanks to all the fore-warnings sites like Wedding Wire gave about this being very likely to happen and told my aunt that money is tight so we really have to stick to our guest list. Now I'm second guessing myself. They will be driving in from Indy (about a 2 1/2 hour drive) and there will be dancing. However, we have never met these guys and we really can't afford to let every single guest bring a plus-one. My other concern about saying no is that another cousin has been in a relationship for a while and my fiance and I have met the boyfriend... I forgot to put him on her invite, but feel like I should have invited him and am leaning toward letting her know that he IS invited. Dunno what to do. Any advice??

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Master June 2014
Piecesofadream · on January 28, 2014 at 4:16 PM
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I would invite the one I met but not the others.

Our rule was SO's were only invited if you are engaged, have been living together or we just like them
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VIP September 2014
britt morgan · on January 28, 2014 at 4:51 PM
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If I don't know you, you're not invited. Simple as that.
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Dedicated August 2014
Private User · on January 28, 2014 at 6:25 PM
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100% agree with Kate.
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Master February 2014
ItsGoodToBeKing · on January 28, 2014 at 6:27 PM
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Boyfriends? hell no.
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Master May 2014
Emily · on January 28, 2014 at 6:35 PM
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I think all the bf's should be invited to be honest, but *especially* the third cousin you mentioned in which she has been with her bf for 1.5 years and they are LIVING together!? Come on. Of course they should be invited together. And the fact that you just "forgot him" on the invitation was really very inconsiderate and probably hurtful for her.
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Dedicated March 2014
Angela · on January 28, 2014 at 6:36 PM
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LoL Almost Mrs King. Love 'em!
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Dedicated March 2014
Angela · on January 28, 2014 at 6:41 PM
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Emily, not inviting him was a mistake. When I made out the guest list originally, I didn't know she was seeing anyone. I only get to go to Indy a few times a year. We met him a couple of months after I made out the guest list.
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Master November 2014
Stephanie · on January 28, 2014 at 6:57 PM
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18 and older and in a relationship = it's not polite to not let them bring their significant other. A "plus one" is when a person who is NOT in a relationship is able to bring a guest of their choosing. I totally get not letting single guests bring +1s.

I can tell you that at my brother's wedding, my cousins' significant others were not invited, even after my cousins asked. They were really offended and upset about it. One cousin had been with his girlfriend (now fiancee) for 6 years at that point (longer than my brother's relationship), and another had been with her boyfriend (now fiance) for 4.
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Master February 2014
ItsGoodToBeKing · on January 28, 2014 at 7:00 PM
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If you didn't know she even had a bf then wtf. Obviously not that close so who cares. One of my cousins is bringing her Mr. Right Now just cuz I had an open seat but otherwise idgaf. and 3rd cousins?! I stopped at 2nd cousins, or at least ones I've talked to in the last year -.-
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