Should i message guests that have not Rsvp'd?

Don’t send people reminders before the due date you’ve already given them. Give them til the due date. It’s really obnoxious as an adult to be nagged for an rsvp before the date that you chose as a deadline— you specifically already told them they had until that day to reply. Any reminder now is not a polite reminder. Let the deadline pass, then reach out. If you’re away, maybe your FI can take care of it, or if your numbers aren’t due immediately you could reach out a couple days later after you return, but it also doesn’t have to be a big ordeal. Just a copy paste send of “hi! Just reaching out as our rsvp date has passed, please follow this link xx to let us know if you will be able to make it. We hope to be able to celebrate with you, and appreciate you letting us know either way. Thanks!”

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Well we need them by June 3 for sure, because we have a lot going on the month before the wedding and June 3 is officially a month before. Also, the people I'm specifically talking about are my friends/family that he doesn't know. So I would be the one having to message them while I'm away.

I'm mostly talking about nudging people who I've literally heard nothing from. Other folks have already at least said "Hey, we got the invite!" but a handful haven't said anything at all so I don't even know if they possibly moved and their invite got lost somewhere. It would be a friendly reminder not obnoxious.

Its way too soon to message your guests. With two weeks to go it comes off as really pushy.

When do leave for your trip and when is your final headcount due? If you are leaving for your trip a few days before your RSVP deadline, I think it would be okay to send a reminder then. If you come back a few days after June 3, but before your headcount is due, then I think you can also follow up then as well. Your RSVP deadline should have been before you actually need final numbers - there are always guests who forget to RSVP so those extra few days are necessary for follow up. Most people, unfortunately, don't RSVP right away, and there will always be people who forget, need a reminder, or wait until the last minute (and possibly some who just ignore you).

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It's okay to send a "Hope you got our invite, we can't wait to see you!" message but actually reminding people to RSVP when the deadline is still two weeks away is not appropriate.

Hmm tbh I don't think it's a big deal since these are friends. I don't think it'll be pushy. But thanks anyways! I don't know how to delete this post but I don't need any more respones.

Gracias!

Normally i would say no, but we had our due date for 6/1 and we’ve also had a lot of ppl tell us they never got the invitation. Luckily they got the save the date so they knew we were still moving forward this year. But the Mail is incredibly slow and stuff is getting lost. Maybe wait until next week to start reaching out.

Do not send any reminder before the due date. You will get many replies on the last day. Anyone else who has not replied, you call after the rsvp due date and go down the list until you have reached everyone.

I’m struggling with receiving a lot of my responses as well I don’t see anything wrong with just sending a quick reminder hey guys please don’t forget the rsvp date is June 3rd so please don’t forget to send them back. People often put them aside and forget I don’t see anything wrong with sending a quick reminder.

We didn't cue anyone before the RSVP date, although I get that you want to do it. We didn't get the flood of RSVP's that people say you will at the end and had to follow up with a bunch of people on the deadline date, but I wanted to at least give people the chance to RSVP on their own accord. It was disappointing how many people just did not RSVP, but we were able to clear 95% of the no responses within 24 hours and then a few stragglers within a couple days.

Don't contact people until after the RSVP date.