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Chyna
Savvy November 2017

Should I pay for my Bridal Party Lodging?

Chyna, on June 2, 2017 at 10:09 PM

Posted in Married Life 27

My wedding will be in New Orleans. I am currently living in Atlanta, GA. My bridesmaids are majority from out of town and do not live in New Orleans. I am currently looking to pay for the bridal party hair, makeup, bridesmaids gifts and food. They are paying $250 for their dresses, bridal shower,...

My wedding will be in New Orleans. I am currently living in Atlanta, GA. My bridesmaids are majority from out of town and do not live in New Orleans. I am currently looking to pay for the bridal party hair, makeup, bridesmaids gifts and food. They are paying $250 for their dresses, bridal shower, etc. I found a great airbnb that will be $250 per person, 3 nights. Should I pay for their lodging for the whole weekend or ask them to pay that money?

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  • LoveLoveLove
    Super October 2017
    LoveLoveLove ·
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    You're not responsible for lodging so you're not obligated to pay. It's a nice gesture if you can afford it.

    Also, I recommend letting them make their own reservations based on their budgets. Tell them where you're staying and where the wedding/reception will be and let them take it from there.

    Spending an entire weekend with others may be challenging.

    ETA: You didn't say if you and your FH are staying with them, but you may also want to spend your wedding night alone.

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  • Casey
    Devoted October 2017
    Casey ·
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    If your bridesmaids are married or in serious relationships, you're basically asking them to pay for their SO's lodging in addition to sharing the Airbnb cost with you.

    If it's important to you that everyone stay together before the wedding, pay for the Airbnb yourself. If you want or need them to pay for their own lodging, tell them about the Airbnb you found and ask them to share the cost with you, but be prepared that they may prefer to stay with their SOs to avoid having to pay for two rooms.

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  • augustlawbride
    Expert August 2017
    augustlawbride ·
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    Here's what we did:

    We rented the house/lodge at our reception venue the night before

    It has enough beds for everyone

    The bridesmaids know they may stay there free but that if they want to stay somewhere else they may but it's at their own expense

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  • Steph
    Devoted May 2018
    Steph ·
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    In my opinion you don't have to pay for there stay. Hair and make up are more than enough.

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  • A
    Dedicated September 2017
    Ashley ·
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    I think that's super generous of you! But I do think it depends. I live in upstate New York and I was just in my best friends wedding in Athens Georgia last week. I flew down, stayed at her house with about 1 million family members, and then drove home with my FH. As her MOH, I had absolutely no financial help from her other two bridesmaids for her bachelorette party, and we also bought a dress that was almost $250 each. But the bright surprised us and pay for our hair and make up, which I thought was super generous and I really appreciated it, being that I traveled so far to get there. I wouldn't put a price tag on my best friends wedding, that's not what I'm trying to say, but speaking of someone who's on a tight budget and getting married four months from now, even just having the bride take care of that one small thing for me was really great. It was difficult to stay at her house with a bunch of extra people, they were all sleeping all over the floor, but I also couldn't afford to get a hotel on top of everything else. But since your wedding is a destination wedding since everybody has to travel to New Orleans, I do personally think it's fair for your bridesmaids to get a hotel room. Maybe they could all share one? That would of course depend on how many bridesmaids you have, but if your having a destination wedding, I think it's more than fair to ask everybody to pay their own way to get there. Hope this helps!

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  • Chyna
    Savvy November 2017
    Chyna ·
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    @Amy I'm at the Balcony Ballroom . Smiley smile

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  • Chivy
    VIP September 2018
    Chivy ·
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    I would not and I don't think they would/should expect it

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