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Should i postpone my small shower if nobody has cancelled?

Ani, on March 14, 2020 at 4:05 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 7
My bridal shower is supposed to be this coming Saturday, about 30 people. Almost all of my guests (except my fiancé’s grandma) are in their early 30s and healthy. I was originally going to host it on my cousin’s large patio. Now, in addition to the fact that it’s been raining all week, we have this virus situation. Most likely, I will have to move the event indoors to a fairly large living space (the house is huge).


None of my friends have backed out. However, my aunt went into this whole tantrum about how I am educated and should know better than to keep the event on - and that she can’t believe I haven’t canceled, and that I should cancel. My MIL and mom on the other hand say they really don’t think it’s an issue, we are only 30 people - all young and healthy.
I don’t know what to do. I can’t postpone - my wedding is less than a month away, and even that may need to be pushed back. I understand that people are rightfully concerned, but at the same time it’s a really small event and realistically chances of any issues are very low. I am worried people will soon start to flake and I’m pretty frustrated with my aunt for being so pushy and rude about it. What do you guys think?

7 Comments

Latest activity by Melle, on March 14, 2020 at 12:52 PM
  • Rebecca
    Master August 2019
    Rebecca ·
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    I'm so sorry, this is so tough.

    IF you have it, I think you need to disinvite your fiance's grandma. She's in the age range that this virus is particularly dangerous for, and any of you could be a vector.

    A large, indoor space would allow for people to stay a few feet away from each other...

    That said, this is a very rapidly changing situation, and people may not feel comfortable even at small parties by next week.

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  • Kathryn
    VIP August 2020
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    I'm always pro abundance of caution. It sucks, but the less chances to spread anything the better right now. It's a very tough decision, and one only you can make. My heart goes out to you girl. Please stay safe.
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  • Jennifer
    Super March 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    This is my take on it. People are going to get sick no matter how hard we try to not spread this thing. Eventually our bodies will have to learn to fight this off just like anything else. As always, if someone feels the slightest bit sick, right now is definitely not the time to pass it off as a cold or sinus problems. I would hope that adults can make that decision to know "wellness" from illness. Also, elderly adults should know what they need to do. If they choose to leave the house then that is on them. We have elderly clients continuously coming in for massages right now. I am shocked but at the same time I don't think they want to live their older years scared for their lives. Even though we may feel these clients are putting themselves at risk, we cannot exactly shut down businesses either. If we all continuously run scared and stop leaving our homes this economy will tank. We must keep going, keep shopping, keep going to work, etc. Don't let this stop your life.
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  • Shelly
    Devoted January 2021
    Shelly ·
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    I would still have the shower if I were you. I agree with you. If people feel unsafe, they don’t have to go.
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  • Jade
    Expert November 2021
    Jade ·
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    I would still have the shower, but maybe send out an email/text and say if anyone’s sick then they need to stay home. This sounds common sense but a lot of people go out sick anyways even during this. I also second guess what PPs said about grandparents and anyone with weakened immune systems. They should not go either. If people are worried they just won’t go. But personally if I was invited to a shower tomorrow I’d not be worried and I’d still go
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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    It's up to you at the end of the day, but I personally would not feel comfortable attending a shower right now. Should you hold it, I would make sure that FH's grandma was not there, that no food was served buffet style, and that you will have enough space to practice 'social distancing.' You will also want to be careful touching presents, etc. Maybe if you hold it, you could live-stream the shower for the folks who don't feel comfortable coming?

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    If you’ve got a space large enough where people aren’t crammed and you take precautions for any food then I don’t see why not
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