Should i reschedule?

If he died the week of, I don't think you would cancel, no. But that's not likely.

Are you having a big wedding? Is there anyway you can move it up so he can still see his little girl get married and he can walk you down the aisle? I know I would have done anything to have my dad at my wedding. But understandably if your having a huge wedding this may not be possible. Good Luck

We found ourselves in a similar situation last year with my mil. We had a commitment ceremony while she was in hospice as she was too sick/weak to attend a wedding. It was very special and so meaningful to do that with her and to have her blessing!

I’m so sorry to hear about your pop. My thoughts are with you.


My fiancé’s grandfather passed away the week before my bridal shower. We decided to postpone the bridal shower because we wanted my FMIL and my FGMIL to be there and present and able to celebrate and be happy.
If it was your own father I don’t know how I would handle it, being happy celebrating and trying to enjoy wedding day while grieving.
I don’t think your guests will mind all the flip flopping of dates. People tend to be very understanding even if we as the bride think we’re totally bothering them.
Good luck and I hope everything turns out okay.

I'm sorry you are in this situation. It's definitely an issue for people when they have to keep postponing their weddings back. You really only have two choices, either move your wedding up and have it very soon, or go ahead with your original date not knowing if he can make it. If he' at home or in the hospital in December, you can livestream it to him.

Our wedding was originally scheduled for May 2020, but we canceled due to Covid. My mom was diagnosed with cancer 10 days before our original wedding date, so we made a last minute decision to go ahead and do a small ceremony and legally marry on our original date. It was not what we wanted but felt like the right thing to do.

We are now celebrating this June. My mom has been undergoing treatments since last spring and had a successful surgery and her prognosis is good overall, but her cancer treatments are really rough on her so she is very weak and has a difficult time going out.

I think how you go forward is a decision that needs to be made with your family - you, your fiance, your Pop (not sure if that is your dad or granddad), and his immediate family (his partner, and if he is your granddad, than your mom or dad that his is child). Would all feel comfortable and enjoy your wedding if something dire happened that same week? Some people have the mindset of "it would be great to have something to look forward to after tragedy" and others need time to grieve. I know I likely wouldn't have been able to just go ahead with a wedding right after my dad died (which was not expected) but I feel like maybe I could with my mom's cancer diagnosis? My mom also would 100% want me to go on and enjoy my wedding regardless of her being there or not.

Also if your Pop JUST got his diagnosis, he is likely undergoing screenings and various assessments right now and information gathered within the next few weeks could change the prognosis considerably. My mom went from stage 2 cancer to stage 4 cancer and then was re-downgraded back to stage 2-3 once they found out some masses they picked up during screening were benign other things and not cancerous tumors. All of this happened within the first month of her being diagnosed. There was a period of time when we thought she wouldn't last the year and most recently her treatment plan includes 10 more years of hormone therapy. With cancer, a lot can change in a short amount of time, especially early on in the discovery/diagnosis/treatment process.

View Quoted Comment Our original wedding date was May 2020 also awe then rescheduled to February and then out of fear we moved in to December 2020. So we’ve asked around 50 people some having children to reschedule their flights and accommodation twice. We have people travelling from two different states. So we made the decision if one state got locked down if wasn’t fair to reschedule because the other state could come. So we were already prepared to have it life streamed down the people who couldn’t travel.


I spoke with my mum she said don’t change anything. She doesn’t wanting me changing my plans for a third time. I should have been married almost 2 years ago. We also have a toddler so as you can imagine we can’t keep losing money on it.
If our wedding wasn’t rescheduled because of covid twice already I wouldn’t hesistate and even bring it forward. But we have asked so much from people as it is!

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I think it's most important to consider the needs/wants of the immediate people affected by this diagnosis and it sounds like everyone is on board with you keeping the date you have now. December is still a ways away, and you have some time to consider if you need to move the date again. I would keep what you have, and see if your family gets any new insight as to your Pop's condition in the coming months. You may learn something a month from now that makes the decision much more clear cut. Good luck, and my sympathies to you. I am so sorry you are having to go through this at all, let alone surrounding your wedding.