Should i send an Invitation?

I think it would still be nice of you to invite her, that way she can make the decision of whether she feels up to it or not. If you've already talked about inviting her it would be rude to suddenly uninvite her by not sending an invitation.

I'd still send it just to be polite! You never know!

One of my friends is due 3 weeks before our wedding. I still invited her, her husband, their older son and their baby, but I also made sure to have an actual conversation with her about it. She told me that if she delivered a little early, she definitely wanted to come. If she really delivers 3 weeks before the wedding, probably not. I told her if she wasn't sure by our RSVP date, I could put her as a "no" but add her back in up to 2 weeks before the wedding (per our venue rules) if she does decide to come. TLDR: I would definitely still invite her, but maybe have a direct conversation about when your RSVPs are due and how to handle it if she's still not sure whether she's coming by then.

Hi ! I would definitely send an invitation. My friend came by car 1500 km with a 2 months old baby to my wedding !

Can you not imagine the day without her? If so, send an invite. If she isn’t someone who makes the list then don’t send one and meet up at another time.

Definitely invite! It always feels good to be invited to something, no matter how.

We're being mindful of these as well even though our wedding invitations won't be sent for a while, but for the people we think might feel bad or super obligated even if a simple "no" will do for us, we plan on writing a personal note to them and slip it with the invitation so that they don't feel pressured but still get a formal invite (like for our friends in another country, especially).

My Fiance's dad taught me a russian saying during this guest list process that roughly translates to "its your job to extend the offer, its their job to say "no"". It's been super useful when I've felt on the fence about obligatory invites or sending to people that have hinted that they wont be able to make it. Let them tell you they wont come, don't assume it for them.