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Should i tell my fh about my new dress?

Anna, on July 12, 2019 at 4:53 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 20

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A little back story about the dress: I went to try on dresses on dec 2018. I told the girl by budget. Well I fell in LOVE with this one dress. We all cried. I felt like a bride. Well she told me the price and it was over my budget. i had to say no and left devastated. The following week I went to David's bridal and since I wanted to stick to my budget, I looked at the 5 dresses and picked the one i liked. One day I was frustrated and I kinda let my fh know the feelings about the dress. He told me I should've gotten the one I wanted.
Well fast forward months later. We were watching say yes to the dress. He looked at me and told me how he wishes I would've gotten the dress I really wanted. I told him I was starting to love the dress I got but he didnt believe me. I guess he could read me and knew I was lying to myself. Well I decided to go get the dress I fell in love with. I realized even if it's one day, I havent had the best life and I feel I deserve to have something nice. That dress is MY dress. Here's the question, should I let him know or surprise him? I do worry that I'm going to be walking down the aisle and hes gong to think that's not the one I want. Any advice?

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Caytlyn · on July 12, 2019 at 4:56 PM
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I would tell my FW because we discuss any major purchases like that. If you don’t share finances and dropping whatever amount you spent is no big deal in your relationship, I think it’s really up to you. I guess I don’t understand why you would keep it a secret.
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Anna · on July 12, 2019 at 5:01 PM
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My fh and I always discuss finances. But the dress was purchased on a preowned website. Way cheaper. Plus when it came to my wedding dress, I told him I wanted to purchase it on my own. He didn't like it but I told him I would feel restricted if he was paying for it and I don't want to feel that way for my wedding day. And basically the price I paid for both, is the price of that one dress.
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Michaela · on July 12, 2019 at 5:07 PM
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I would tell him! I agree that I wouldn't want him to think that the one you were wearing was the one you settled on.. If you decided not to tell him, you would tell him after the ceremony at some point when he said that you're beautiful. I think seeing you walk down the aisle will be a shocker moment anyways so no need to "surprise" him
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Cyndy · on July 12, 2019 at 8:50 PM
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I would probably tell him. He clearly wants you to be happy and have that dress so he will also feel good.
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Kelly · on July 12, 2019 at 8:56 PM
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Did he see them both? If not on you in photos? He might notice you're wearing the one you love if he has.
If not just sit him down for a surprise and tell him.
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Anna · on July 12, 2019 at 9:01 PM
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He hasnt seen any of the dresses. Though his mom was with me when I brought the 1st dress. She never came with me when I tried tried on the new dress I just bought. So I think she will ask questions or hopefully she forgot lol.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on July 13, 2019 at 2:24 AM
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If he hasn’t seen either, go ahead and tell him so he’ll be happy for you & still will be surprised on your wedding day!

Yay for YOUR dress.
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Melle · on July 13, 2019 at 3:21 AM
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I think he will be happy to hear you're happy with the dress you truly love
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Anna · on July 13, 2019 at 4:11 AM
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Thank you. I literally cried when I paid for it. I'm so excited to get it. I didn't think a dress could do that to me lol.
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Heather · on July 13, 2019 at 10:41 AM
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I would tell him! It’s obviously bothering him that you got a dress that wasn’t your first choice. Let him know you got your dress so that he’s not still worrying about your happiness
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on July 13, 2019 at 11:35 AM
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Omg. That’s the best feeling! It really helps when we have a dress we feel beautiful in. So happy for you!!!
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Anna · on July 13, 2019 at 4:24 PM
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True. I'm amazed he still remembered. I know this has been the thing that has been bugging me. He almost was close in buying me the dress but I stopped him. I told him I dont want to spend a lot on a small wedding. But this will make him happy i got it. It'll put his mind at ease.
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Aliciabilly2019 · on July 13, 2019 at 4:54 PM
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Tell him just dont show him is all...
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Wendy · on July 13, 2019 at 9:53 PM
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I would tell him that you got the dress you really wanted, that way he can be extra excited for you and will greatly anticipate seeing you for the first time in it!
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Abigail · on July 14, 2019 at 10:52 AM
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I would tell him! I had my "reveal" yesterday with the women in our family and when I came home he wanted to hear all about how much everyone loved it and was so excited to hear how happy I was. Its a special moment and he cares about your happiness!
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ASMini914 · on July 14, 2019 at 11:04 AM
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I would tell him, assuming he hasn’t seen photos of it he won’t know otherwise! he will be so happy for you!
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Susan · on July 14, 2019 at 11:24 AM
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I would tell him.
I had a similar situation with my dress, I purchased it a while back and couldn’t stop thinking that it wasn’t THE one but I knew I didn’t need to look anymore - than I happened across the dress of my dreams. I mentioned it to FH and explained the entire situation and he was adamant that I get the one that I had dreamed of.
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Brittany · on July 14, 2019 at 12:01 PM
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I would tell him, especially since it effects your overall budget.
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Katherine · on July 14, 2019 at 11:22 PM
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I say let him know, he'll be more relieved going into the wedding, and if he hasn't seen either he wouldn't be able to tell the difference anyway
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Bambidancer · on July 14, 2019 at 11:33 PM
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I would tell him, I think he will be pleased to know that you were able to get your dream dress and maybe let him know that his suggestion to get would you really want is what pushed you to get it.

I think there is something to say about a relationship where you respect the boundaries that you both agreed on but you accept some wiggle room when you can to see your partner be happy.
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