My sister (30) got engaged in October 2020, and her wedding will be in October 2021. My bf (now fiancé, 30) just proposed to me (26) a few days ago (!). We've been together for almost 4 years and are very ready to start a family. We'd like to have a short engagement, very small wedding (15-20 people max), and start a family asap. My sister's wedding is going to be 150-200 people, so there is a lot of planning involved and our whole family has been more or less consumed with planning since the engagement 7 months ago, and my parents are spending a lot of $ on it (like selling their summer home to finance it).
I'm wondering if it would be in poor taste for me to get married this summer, specifically late August or early September. It would be immediate family only and we plan to pay for it ourselves. My mom has expressed that she wants me to wait until summer or fall of 2022 so that she can pay for it or give us the same amount that she gave my sister, but I'm not comfortable accepting that much $ from her knowing her financial situation, and I really don't want to wait that long.
Just hoping for some unbiased opinions and advice! Thank you 
