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Should i wait on the honeymoon or go?

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Anna, on May 17, 2019 at 3:47 AM

Okay, I dont know what to do and need advice. My fiance and i are getting married on april 18, 2020. We both dont live together and are waiting for marriage to do so.

I work for a school district and I'm off when the kids are off for summer. If I dont miss any days, I receive a big bonus at the end of the school year. My fiance is fine with whatever. The thing is I dont know what to do. I told him we should wait until I'm off for summer to go on our honeymoon.

But when I was getting ready to go to work today, I thought how this time next year we'll be married. I got real excited, finally living under one roof. Well then it hit me that if we dont take a honeymoon after we get married, itll be back to work on Monday. It's not gonna feel like we got married. What do you think I should do? How many of you are waiting to take your honeymoon later?

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Expert September 2019
Elizabeth · on May 17, 2019 at 7:43 PM
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We're taking ours 5-6 months later so that we have time to plan it and not be rushed. We also have a short engagement-- just long enough to plan our wedding since we don't want a long engagement.
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Master October 2020
Mandi · on May 17, 2019 at 7:47 PM
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You are gonna want that money.
Get it, then take the honeymoon with it!
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Anna · on May 17, 2019 at 8:04 PM
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True lol. i told my sister, if I end up having to miss a day (dr appt or I sick) then I guess we will take the honeymoon after the wedding lol
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Devoted August 2019
Ali · on May 17, 2019 at 8:09 PM
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You only live once and hopefully only marry once take that honeymoon right after!
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Rachel · on May 18, 2019 at 9:46 PM
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If you haven't moved in together and are moving in together after the wedding it will be a big difference! My husband and I were already living together when we got married. And the whole wedding was so perfect it honestly felt like a dream. So going back to living together nothing felt different to us. BUT we are both big on making sure we were compatible living together so the wedding was more of a formality at that point.
We decided to wait to have our honeymoon the year after our wedding as an anniversary gift to ourselves. Weddings are expensive and we wanted to put aside a little money for the honeymoon that wouldn't put us in debt. There is nothing wrong with holding off a bit. Honestly, I am so relieved we didn't have the honeymoon right after the wedding. We were both exhausted and rushing to the airport we would have been so stressed out. I also could not get all the waterproof wedding makeup off and looked like a raccoon for a few days. I would still plan your honeymoon months in advance so it doesn't get put off too long, but there is no rush to have it after you are married. If you want to feel more like you are married in the meantime, print your wedding pictures on big canvases at walgreens and put them up in your hallway. No matter which way you decide, it will be right for you
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Kelly · on May 18, 2019 at 10:01 PM
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My fiance and I are probably waiting 6 months for a honeymoon. We're getting married in October and my employer does yearly allotments of vacation January 1st so by then I'll probably be out of days. And my Fiance will be starting a new job in May 2020 so he probably won't have any vacation until six months of employment anyway.
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Anna · on May 19, 2019 at 12:36 AM
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We are getting married June 6th next year.

We went ahead and booked our honeymoon for the 7th-14th, since we had a longer engagement we just planned the honeymoon into our budget.

My fiancee is an HVAC service technician so we knew he had to ask off for the busy season in advance. So we have given them almost a year and a half notice.

I guess, since it seems like we are waiting on the wedding we decided not to wait on the honeymoon.
If there would have been a work bonus at stake for him, I wouldn't have minded waiting. I'm a planner, I love having things to look forward to

Maybe take a long weekend to make your wedding celebration last a little longer?

Good luck!
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Dedicated October 2019
Meg · on June 12, 2019 at 4:51 PM
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Obviously, do what you think is best...
If I were you, I would wait the extra month and a half or whatever it is, and then take that bonus money to go on a longer, more extravagant honeymoon. You could even go to local places and "vacation" on the weekends in your own city until your real honeymoon. You'll be so happy that month and a half or whatever it is that you'll not be feelings something is "missing"...You'll have just committed to joining lives with the man of your dreams, and him to you..and that is marriage, not just the fancy vacations and such. I hope this helps you make a decision!
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