Should my sisters be bridesmaids?

Honorary bridesmaid isnt a thing. Its rude. Just either have them as bridesmaids or not. I dont see any issue with their age. We had a wide spread of ages in our WP.

Why would them having a child make them not want to participate?

Also, what does soon to be married mean? Are you even in a serious relationship right now, seems like you're jumping the gun here?

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Glad I'm not the only one who was thinking this.

OP, you are way overthinking this. When you get engaged you pick the people you are closest with. If those are your sisters (which is sounds like they are), awesome! You don't pick people, IMO, based on the rest of the party and how they'll all interact.

I've never seen a wedding where sisters aren't bridesmaids, so I think it's more common. It also doesn't matter if the bridesmaids all know each other, usually they don't anyway! I wouldn't worry until you are engaged, and see how interested they are in planning and your engagement and if they are interested in being bridesmaids.

I would just pick who you’re closest to and who you can’t imagine not being by your side on your wedding day. For me that doesn’t include my sister or FSIL’s so none are bridesmaids. Everyone is different.

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Please dont follow this advice. If they are close to you, have them stand with you as BMs. Don't base it on their desire to plan the wedding, thats on you and your fiance.

One of the best decisions I have made is to have NO bridesmaids. It's an option worth considering. We are saving a ton of money on gifts, flowers, etc, nobody will have hurt feelings for being left out, and nobody feels obligated to buy special outfits, throw parties, etc.

Totally 100% drama free.

First, I would wait until you're engaged to put more thought into this - anything can change between now and then.
Second, if you know you want them as a bridesmaid, ask them. Also, don't feel obligated to have all of them as bridesmaids if you don't want them all to be one. I am going to have only one of my younger sisters be a bridesmaid. I have 3 other younger sisters who I will be assigning tasks to since they have expressed that they want to be involved somehow (ie: ushering, helping me get ready, helping with decorations, etc.)

Third, if you are going to have both them and friends in the bridal party, I don't think you would have 2 bachelorette parties (someone please correct me if I'm wrong). Your bridal party would just throw you one (typically planned by the MOH) party. If your sisters wanted to take you out as a "sister bonding/congratulations" type of thing they could but I wouldn't label it as a bachelorette party.

Fourth, children doesn't mean that they won't want to be involved. Yes, it could make meeting up with you a little bit harder, but that doesn't mean theyd want to be any less involved. At the end of the day, all they're really required to do is purchase a dress and show up for the wedding on time!

Honestly, this isn't a question you can answer until you're engaged and a year away from your wedding. SOOOO much can change between now and then. Maybe something will happen to make you super close with your sisters, or maybe you guys won't speak much over the next year+ they'll be like complete strangers. Maybe in a few years your girl squad might have gone their separate ways and the only bridesmaids you could imagine having is family. You really won't know until you get there.

I had a 3 and a half year engagement, at the start of my engagement I wouldn't have imagined my husband's half sisters in my bridal party. 2 years into the engagement I realized I was getting closer with his family and would love to have them in the bridal party. Things can change!

The best advice I can give you is to keep this in the way back of your mind until you have a wedding date. Then evaluate your relationships. Don't ask anyone to be in your bridal party unless you are very close with them meaning you talk often and couldn't imagine your day without them