Should our guest list have the same family members as a sibling who was recently married?

I think you should invite whoever you want to invite and no one else's guest list matters when it comes to determining yours.

You should only invite who you want at your wedding regardless of who they invited to theirs.

We received my FBIL's guest list from FMIL, we just went with it. We were able to remove some people, but not a lot.


I think men just think in presents.

I think you should invite whomever you want. I mean different weddings, different circumstances. It's

Invite who you want - don't base it off of someone else's list.

I know I'm closer to a few of my 2nd cousins than my sisters are, so when they get married, chances are they won't be invited and that's OK!

Only invite the people that you truly want there. Don't feel guilty inviting (or not inviting) individuals based on someone else's opinion Your day, your guest list! Good luck!

Your list should be your own, and your FSIL doesn’t get a say in it. Everyone has different criteria for invites these days, and most guests can understand that. My brother and I had weddings only 6 weeks apart. I invited all my first cousins because that was important to me. He only invited ones they were close to and that his wife had met, because that was what was important to them.

If you and your fiance want to invite them, invite them! If they never come to any other gatherings or reunions they will not likely attend your wedding, but I think its better to be invited and not be able to make it rather than never to be invited at all.

I stole my siblings guest list but did not invite everyone. I invited my great grandma On both sides, her kids, and then my moms siblings and cousins.


She had 200 people I’m having 150

If you and your fiancé want them there, invite them!

I don't think you have to invite everyone they did but it might make it easier by looking at their guest list to start your own. lol less searching for addresses and contact information.

Go ahead and invite whomever you choose to invite. My sister had her wedding this past October and I'm inviting family to my July wedding that she didn't invite. I don't foresee any issues.

I think you should invite who you want to your wedding. Your FH shouldn't be limited to inviting only the same people his sister prioritized.

Invite whoever you want to be there on your day, not who someone else tells you to invite or not invite!

I agree that you should invite whoever you want. My brother got married 2 years ago and our aide of the family guest list is almost identical but if i wanted to take someone off or add anyone, I wouldn’t think twice.
Different weddings, different budgets, completely different scenario. Future sil doesn’t get to dictate who you guys invite. And if she’s upset that’s for your fiancé and her to work out, that’s definitely not drama for you.
Good luck!

Two of his sibs, and 2 of mine, married the same year, just months between us, with us last. His, all family of his big family were includ d, including children his sister and brother married people who had under 10 of all generations, and over 250 local family, including children. But we are a big family on my side. And where they married mid day in parish Hall, and prepared their own food, to afford 300 or so including friends, we wanted a formal wedding. One sister married theyear before, and one the same summer , invited kids. Their partners had rich parents. So they paid an extra $100-$150 for over a hundred kids 7 th grade and up. We decided, since we were paying the whole bill, having finished grad school working our way through months before, we could not afford the 450 people we might get if we invited two huge families. And would have to go to 550 for friends. So we cut all kids, 2-15, and had a separate families picnic day with kids, cheap. And did not invites a few whole families he is I were not close to, on our own sides. Even so, we had more than 60 adult couples of family, the rest friends, actually there. But it was not just us who cut. Various of our distant ( overseas) relatives came only to one of the 3 kids weddings in each family. The one they were closest to, ir the one with a better vacation date. Or, with numerous first and second cousins marrying the same summer, some people only went to 3 or 4 of up to 12 family weddings in the two families. Expensive to go to all. But no one either of us has heard of ever fussed about being invited to one wedding, but not sister or brother's. People understand a wedding where you can only have 100 or 200 of a pool of 400, will be different than one inviting everyone. The only comment anyone made was at first, when my groom's 3 SIL objected to kids not being invited. But stopped objecting when told we cut 167 kids. Not just theirs. So on budgetary terms alone, they shut up. They could not have afforded it, with so many kids, and no free parish Hall, and catered food, our situation, either . I was actually surprised how good people in hubby's family were. But MOG stood up at the first dinner after announcing it, and told grumbling SIL of hubby, whose wedding is it? Theirs, not yours. You had the wedding you wanted, now J and T (us) make the decisions, for their wedding. OP needs my wonderful MIL . It is unfair of a sibling to say you need follow their guest list. Invite people you are close to, as many as you want. Act like there is no relationship between weddings. Other people made their decisions, you make yours independently, likely with some different choices.

You invite family and friends that you hope can attend. thats it. YOUR wedding YOUR guest list.