Should our mothers tour venues with us?

Okay. Is it pretty common that you can take pics of the venue? I would like to show my grandma like that if I could cause I know she couldn't come with.

The firsts round of venues my mom came with us and she was a great help. She knew all the questions to ask. She wasn't with us on the second round of venues but once we picked our venue, she and my aunt came and viewed which was a big help because she pointed things out that I Hadn't even thought of and was able to have the wedding coordinator agree to fix them before the wedding.

I actually toured the venue without my FH. I went with his dad and step mom.

@FutureMrsJochum - Taking pictures is very common. It lets you compare better between venues.

@Letti thank you!!!

FH and I toured venues together first. Then when I found "the one" we brought my parents to see it. I also brought my best friend who flew in to see it on the day I was planning on putting down the deposit. I loved being able to walk through the venue just FH and I imagining the event without everyone else's ideas.

Didn't read pp comments. "Supposed to" is a pretty loaded phrase. It felt very natural that my mom come with us. She lives in my hometown where the wedding is, she's contributing $ to the wedding, and we value her opinion. We didn't even discuss it so it didn't feel forced at all. Now that I think about it, FH is very much "I want what you want" so it was nice to have a third opinion.

His parents are contributing also but didn't come because they don't live there and their contribution to the wedding has been "here's the money, you plan" which is nice but my mom has been hands on which has also been helpful.

Did one of your mothers ask to join and it's feeling awkward or unexpected? If so listen to those feelings and take it from there. If you're just wondering as a courtesy/etiquette question, I don't believe touring venues with mom is a thing. Careful with adding too many opinions in the mix!

I think it's a comfort thing and also depends on if your moms are contributing financially. we brought our moms and my dad along (he hates being left out, haha) and it was a bit of a gong show but they were helping financially so we wanted them to be there.

FH's dad and step mom came with us to one because we were looking for venues on a trip to our hometown, and we we went to see two more without them because they had other plans.

Who is paying for the Venue? If it is just you guys paying I would say you can go without them. Unless you want their opinions/advice. If one parent is paying they should be able to go and ask the questions they have before they put a down payment on the place.

FH and I brought my parents with us, they're very graciously paying for our reception (but we didn't know this when we invited them) we brought them along because I tend to not make rational decisions if I get hooked on something. (I love our venue so much, they could have told me the bathrooms were off limits, and I still would have booked!)

I'm glad we brought them though, they brought up great points, and had questions that FH and I hadn't thought of. Plus, seeing how much other people loved the venue made me feel even better about our choice!

No neither of them asked. A lot of family have been pretty not nosey about our wedding, probably cause it's so far away still. I mean I know I want my mom to come dress shopping with me but I'm not sure what things to include my FMIL in...I love her to death (both my mommas lol) but I'm not entirely sure what type of planning they should be apart of. And we are paying for everything ourselves so it's not like a money thing.

@Stephanie omg I know, I am super emotional about everything! That's why I need FI to come too! Haha maybe that's a good reason to have another person, cause I am gonna be emotional goo when I see them in real life lol

We went alone. Neither of our parents live locally, but we still would have gone without them even if they did. I did facetime my mom to show her the venue after we picked it.

Also...how many times did you view your venue before putting down the deposit???

My Mom went with me. My parents hosted the reception. Hubby couldn't have cared less; he knew I would make sure the guests were well hosted. We only visited one venue- it was my dream venue; I had seen a photo of the ballroom in a bridal magazine, a few years before.

We invited our parents to one of our tastings, and at the same time swung by the venue so they could see it. Neither of them are local, but were thrilled to be invited. I also had my parents with me to go dress shopping (and on a whim went to a dress shop with my fiance's mother), and my mom has been helping with decorating and other nitpicky things that I have no patience for.

Basically, there's tons that they can help out with to feel involved beyond the venue. Choose specific activities/tasks that they'd enjoy and have them help with those.

Okay thanks. The 1st place we are seeing is my top pic... I've been obsessed with it since I found it on WW..we are still going to see our #2 & #3 spots...because I feel the need to have options and backups...we are seeing #1 & #3 this Saturday and #2 next Saturday. I just don't want to make the final decision til we see all 3...right now they all have our date available...I just don't want the expectation to be that we're putting down a deposit same day...even though I feel like #1 is the one!

@Mrs.Fall Bride....sooo true...I had a coworker tell me that it doesn't matter how much it is, just book it and not waste my time.... I was just like uhhh no lol for my FI it's all about the bang for our buck so I'm hoping to elimate one place in the 1st round and then just do a big pro/con list juuuuust to be sure it really is THE one lol

FW and I went with her parents and my mom. They're helping pay for the wedding and were interested in seeing the places. I would say ask if they would be interested, and just go with that. Just don't take too large of a group