Should our mothers tour venues with us?

Sometimes a parent will notice something that you wouldn't have, so it may not be a terrible idea. My parents toured our venue with FH and I, although they are paying for it. But they also asked several questions I never would have thought to ask.

FH and I toured venues alone. We brought our parents after we booked to see the space. I personally think that bringing less people is better, but do think PPs have a good point that sometimes parents have good questions to ask.

We brought my mom and his mom was going to go but got sick last minute. We only toured one and we knew we wanted it as long as we got along with the people, so it was a no brainer to bring them with us. I may not have if we were going to see multiple places, but I'd probably have set up another tour to bring our moms with us if we decided to book the place, just to show it to them!

We went looked at places, made our decision and booked it. We possibly dicussed our options with my mum, I can't remember. If we did though she didn't try to interfere with our decision. After we had our deposit down mum came to see the venue, another time DHs mother went to see it. My MOH went with me another day. Sil another time, It was a hotel though so we could wander in and out whenever we wanted as it was always open. Also it was only 10mins from where we live.

FH and I went first and when we we're pretty sure we wanted to book our venue we made a second appointment so that our parents could come and give their opinions. We wanted them to feel included in the process.

We toured ourselves but they recommended we brought our mothers to the showcase for a second opinion. FMlL was super negative and I got a bad taste about the place. This time we are actually bringing FSIL with us for a second opinion... she's a much more positive person!

It's up to you if you want them there or not

I went with my mom, FMIL and my aunt. My FH didn't want to come, but he is happy with the decision. We actually only viewed one venue.. so not much of a decision. The parents are also helping us pay for the wedding.. so I felt like they should be there.

My fh and I looked at venues alone. Since my parents are paying for part of our venue we wanted them to see it before we committed. We picked the top 2 and then invited my parents to go.

If your parents are not paying for your wedding there is not a need for them to be there unless you want them there (but be prepared for opinions).

Totally up to you. My FH and I toured 10+ venues by ourselves. My parents have to fly to visit and his parents live an hour and a half away. We didn't need anyone else's opinions, and I think it would have been a little annoying and made our decision a little harder if we had our moms' input.

No rules. Whatever makes you comfortable. But if you do decide to take others with you DO NOT let their opinions trump your likes and dislikes.

My mom actually found our venue for us! There's no right or wrong here though. If you want it to be just you two then have it be just you two.

I did some of each.

We went to only one venue and it was our first choice. We brought our mom's to that but we had no intentions of bringing them anywhere else if that place was booked. Everything else kept them out of it and it was just us two. It was easier and less stressful that way.

If they're helping pay you might want to bring them, but otherwise just go alone!

My FH and I went and then when we knew we loved it, we took our parents there to see it and booked

Just the two of you. Take your parents back after you decide or at least after you've narrowed it down to the final two.

Just the two of if you. You can always take others back later for an opinion if you want, once you narrow things down.

Just you two. Enjoy the time searching together. Once we made a decision we brought mom

My mom went with us on our one and only venue tour. FH and I dominated the questions. I think she only asked one or two.

I will add that my father is paying. He happened to be out of the country on vacation at the time. I talked to the venue and they gave him a quick tour when he dropped off the deposit check.

I think it's important to give those VIPs a part in your experience. It's important to them too.