Should we elope?

I think if you are both ready and don't want to wait any longer, then you should definitely not put it off any longer. While I think it's nice to accommodate family when possible, it's not always realistic, particularly when they aren't able to help. Invest in a good photographer, and send them a picture. A ton of brides on here also got married in a small civil ceremony, and are having vow renewals with family and friends when they are more settled and could afford it.

Why do you need to pay for them to come to the wedding?!

I would just create the best wedding you can with the money you have, I say set a date and get to planning!

What about a Destination wedding instead? It's a smaller, intimate, and less stress since you don't have to do a grand wedding. I know i wish i would've done that. It wouldn't necessarily be eloping so it'd be the best of both worlds.

Elope.

I came across this wedding video & it made me cry....the couple eloped but had a videographer for the day & I think it's such an amazing idea. If it weren't so important to FH & I to be in the church, we'd have gone for this

http://vimeo.com/m/16064723

I think you guys should just go do it. 2 yrs is a long time to wait & if you're nice about it, people will eventually understand.

That was a great video, Vicky. I shed a few happy tears.

I would elope.

I wish I could elope. If you can do it, do it. If it's going to be a big issue with the families then maybe not. An option is to get married by the court then when you have the money, have a big reception. Whatever you decide, make sure its your and fh's decision. You should both be comfortable with whatever you decide. Wish you the best!!!

Elope & have a video of the wedding to send to families.

See, this is the problem with families, not understanding where the kids are financially. Sweetie, do what is best for both of you, and not what will make his or your family happy. They will not be the one paying for the debt if ever you two get into one, they will not be the one without food next day after the wedding because all your money went to feeding God only knows how many people. Go to the courthouse, get married, if you two think you need to celebrate that day, go to a nice restaurant have dinner, check into a nice hotel, this is about you two, not about them. Shoot, have your fiance' mom call me, I will talk sense to her empty head, that ticks me off.

I would elope.

Do it! I keep wishing we had.. not a financial issue, just getting frustrated with all the people. go on a nice trip somewhere and get married just you two!

We're basically eloping, due to health reasons both FH and I need to keep things small and quiet. At first I got a little caught up in the idea that it needed to be a big day even though we were intending to keep the guest list quite small. Then we were talking about it one day and decided that this was one day we had to do our way. So now we're having a registry office ceremony with two witnesses, and taking guests out on a separate day to an all-you-can-eat restaurant that we love. And if anyone has a problem with that they don't have to come!

I'd elope for sure. They'll get over their p!ssy attitudes eventually.

Welcome to the WeddingWire Community Christy!

Thanks for all of the comments, and LOVE the video. this has been very insightful.