Should we move after the wedding or before the wedding?

View Quoted Comment Aww congratulations thank you and I really think we should move before the wedding I’m just wondering if it would be wise especially planning a wedding and everything

I would definitely not marry someone I hadn't lived with.

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I thought the same thing. But we have been doing really well. Budget is all I can say

I would move whenever you are financially ready for it, I wouldn't think the wedding has anything to do with it. If you're just renting, it's less stressful and less planning. If you're buying, more stress but not a lot. We are buying a home this Summer, and getting married next Summer. But we live together now and always have.

We're both pretty traditional in the living situation so we aren't moving in together until after the wedding. A lot of people tell us "it's a mistake" but we'll be ok We've been together since high school as well and it's important to us to wait to move in until we're married

After reading the other posts, I think you’ve already gotten a lot of great advice on the financial and logistical aspects of buying a house. On moving in together, I don’t think it’s necessary for me to move in with my fiancé before we get married. I’ve already made my decision that he is the one I want to be with forever and finding out his possibly annoying habits isn’t going to change that. He’s a diligent worker, compassionate, loves children, treats me the utmost respect, loves me, and and is great at handling finances. All the other stuff that I may not know yet is trivial (and we know a lot about each other after 2.5 years). However, if having a trial period is important to you and your SO, then do it. It’s about what will make your relationship and marriage flourish.

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This is what me and my FH are doing as well. He moved to the town I live and I am at the apartment a lot, but I go to my house at the end of the night and we will be okay until June. I don't really have a preference of if a couple lives together or not- just with our professions it's not something we can do

Thank you everyone I think we might move 2 mths before the wedding if possible if not then after

Planning a wedding and moving are two exiting although very stressful events due to all the decision making and cost. Doing these two things together can create more stress, impact your mental health (anxiety, feeling overwhelmed), and cause strain in the relationship. If possible consider doing these things separately, so you can be present in both experiences and have positive memories. Good luck

I am personally very for moving in together before marriage. I had a difficult time adjusting in the beginning of living together, and I'm really glad we worked through that before anything else.

That being said, you can't really pick a date to move until you have a place to live. First things first, figure out what you are looking for and your budget. It doesn't hurt to start looking at houses and apartments either. You don't have to go for it until you're ready. We closed on our house over 6 months after we started actively looking. It takes a long time.

FH and I are also high school sweethearts and still live at home! We've decided that we are going to actively look for a place and if something comes up before the wedding, then great!!! If not, we have some time until October. So we're just kind of lurking the market

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While I definitely respect your decision and your confidence, I definitely wouldn't want anyone to think of a couple living together before marriage as a "trial period". We weren't just attempting to live together and see how it goes. We committed to it, and didn't question that decision. But it was really difficult the first six months to be living with someone new and be a first-time homeowner. It wasn't the easiest time in our relationship, and I personally wouldn't want that stress as newlyweds. I'm happy to go into the marriage in a more secure position.

Just wanted to put that out there. I don't think there's a right or wrong decision, and yours makes perfect sense, but I thought mine should sound more positive, because it was.

I currently live with my parents and my FH & Siblings have a house together. They are moving a couple of weeks prior to us getting married and I am moving in after we are married. The choice is up to you!

Don't add stress where stress isn't needed. (I tell myself this daily lol)