Should We Skip Save The Dates?

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There is something nice about receiving some sort of "official" notification. Even a nicely done email (we basically sent a jpeg version of what a physical STD card would have looked like, with graphic design elements, a beautiful layout and fonts, etc) can feel more formal and significant than being notified by text, phone, or in person. Some of your guests may perceive you contacting them directly as being less serious than receiving an email or card that looks professionally done. Notifying guests one by one with just a phone call or text may make them feel like an afterthought, especially if the timeframe doesn't fall within the typical 6 months out for STDs or 8 weeks out for invites. They may not realize you are trying to make a personal connection with them and may just feel like you forgot to include in a more formal communication.

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I have a hard time believing this bit it depends on the crowd. There are many people who feel the opposite and that a phone call or other contact is more personal and not an afterthought at all wheras a mass mailing type correspondence comes across as impersonal. But everyone is different. You know your group best and what is the most effective way to communicate with them.

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Agreed! It totally depends on your guests and how you present it. Texting "Wedding is THIS DATE, hope to see you there!" is a lot different than "We wanted to call to let you know about our wedding plans" and having a meaningful, intimate conversation.

Some guests are really traditional and it will irk them if you don't send a physical Save the Date on nice stationary, regardless of any other nice action you take to invite them. These are also likely going to be the people stuck to a "traditional" timeline, so a phone call four months before your wedding might seem off to them. It really does depend on your guests!

I do know a lot of people like having a "reference point" so I think pointing guests to your wedding website (which may be in a follow up email or text, after that nice personal conversation) is helpful if you are skipping Save the Dates. I do think it is important to have all of the necessary information in one spot that can be easily referenced by your guests.

View Quoted Comment Yes. We do have a website and if they still have their old save the dates, they'll know it. Of course we will still tell everyone what it is just in case.

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Yes, and I think since you went the "traditional" route the first time around it totally makes sense to go this route for your new date. I hope your August celebration is everything you want it to be!

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I hope so too. We really don't wanna have to postpone again! February would have been ideal but at least we got something.

We rescheduled our wedding for October. We didn't do save the dates for our original date of April 2020. Some days I'm glad we didn't, others I regret it. My fiance's mother was the only person who really "complained" about not getting a save-the-date, at which point his sister offered to just make her one! xD I mentioned to my fiance not long ago the possibility of sending change the dates, mainly for our guests who aren't the most technologically inclined. I even found some cute ones that are movie themed, as our wedding is! We're seven months out, so I think we have time. In terms of your question, at this point, I would make an announcement on your wedding website, if you have one, and then reach out directly to guests.

View Quoted Comment Thank you. You definitely still have time. If our guests still have their old save the date, they'll have our website for updates but we'll be sure to remind them just in case.