Okay, before you judge me, please let me explain. My FH and i have mothers who are very controlling. They are the type of people who will be adding guest to our wedding without us knowing. They will give us the whole "you have to invite so and so..." My wedding happens to be in a year. I am so excited that around this time next year, i will be marrying my fiance. When we got engaged, we made a deal not to tell our parents when the day is,
My fiance and I are paying for the whole wedding ourselves. We are even looking at venues that will only book 50, so they cant invite anyone else. We already booked the church and hopefully booking a photographer this sat. My question is, should we let our parents know that we have set a date? His mother doesn't even know the date but when its just her and i, she will try to get information from me, Im scared to be alone with her lol. She acts like she understands but she has already gone to see the venue we have talked about (he has mentioned it to her, not me). I have told him to stop telling her things. She has also started telling people where the venue is. She has Last weekend i had to tell her, in a nice way, we haven't booked it and to stop telling people. I know shes happy for us, but its very frustrating dealing with her sometimes. My mom hasn't really asked about my wedding, just what colors dress to get my little sisters.
So my question is should i tell them? I was planning on telling them in Oct. Just any advice will be good. Thanks.
P.s my mom has asked me questions but it has led to many arguments cause its not the way she wants it. So to her she rather just avoid it.