Should wear Red?

I don't see a problem with you wearing red. Aside from white, the only color I asked my mom and mother-in-law not to wear was navy because our colors were red, black and white and I didn't want to look patriotic. Have you asked your step-son's feelings? What does your husband say? Will he be in blue too?

I told my family no red you’ll stand out to much and it doesn’t go with the color scheme I would for sure ask the bride

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Husband wearing Navy, Step-son doesn't care. So for family pictures all the men in our family will be in the Navy Tux, Bride in White, step daughter standing up in Blush and other daughter and husband I don't know what they are wearing. 1 year old grand daughter in white. Thanks for your input

I didn’t ask what any of our parents were wearing or even know what they were wearing until they showed up to the wedding. But I may have been more on the laidback side as a bride. I don’t see any problems with you wearing red but you’ll have to decide if it’s worth a fight with the other family members who seem to have an issue with it.

View Quoted Comment You're welcome! Has the bride herself told you she doesn't want you in red or is that just what someone else is saying the bridr has said?

Eh...I wouldn't wear it...I think it's kinda over the top for the bride and her mom to be freaking out, but I would exchange it if it were me.

I mean, look, I don't know what your relationship is with your stepson or his FW, but I don't think it's worth the possibility of causing a rift. People are very split (it seems) about the color red at weddings. It is a confident attention grabbing color and I think it's great for those reasons. But people also might give you the side eye if you wear it. Up to you, I think she's being controlling but I think you should pick your battles. But then again, I try to avoid family conflict whenever possible because my dad's side is NUTSO.

My stepmom wanted to wear white, so I dunno, I think she's lucky😊

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Bride said that she not going to stress about it. I should have consulted her much earlier. We don't get along that well. I love the style of the dress and it looks great on me however I can't were the other colors it comes in.

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My family love it and don't have a problem. I think it mostly the brides Mom and the bride. It's not like we will be in a ton of pictures as we have a very small family.

View Quoted Comment If she wanted an input on your outfit she should have asked you about it sooner or offered to go shopping with you. Bride's mom has literally zero say in what you wear.

I would probably wear something else just to keep the peace (and i LOVE red). That being said, I personally think it's really strange when brides/family essentially veto colours for the mothers of the bride or groom. A few people have posted on this site complaining about colours their moms/FMIL's chose and I just don't think it's a big deal. Although I don't think you should need to consult with them about your choice of outfit, I also think it might not be worth the fight in this case. If you do decide to wear it I am sure you will be stunning.

Wear what you want. They're out of line and don't get any say about what anyone other than the bridal party wears.

I think red is too much and would cause you to stand out. Guests at weddings should blend in but carry their own individual style. A more muted color would be appropriate especially given the colors being worn by others aren't as bright and attention getting.

I don’t think red is a good dress color unless it’s a bridesmaid and that is the chosen color. It just stands out too much, it also has history of being seen as scandalous in the US(yet joyful other countries) and weddings are typically a more modest attire occasion. Of course times have changed but people still side eye a glaring red dress at a wedding.

My MIL wore red, and one SIL. Tbh, it is pretty eye catching in pictures but I didn’t think it was a big deal. As long as you don’t wear white I don’t think there’s any way to steal the thunder from the bride. I don’t think it’s worth a fight with your family so I would probably just wear something else but as someone who had a MOG wear red I didn’t think it was over the top.

Because you’ll be in family photos, I can understand if they’re wanting everyone to wear a more subtle color palette. Can you just ask for more color options so you can wear something you already have or would feel good about buying (gray, black, blush, navy, etc)? Navy seems like a great color choice and would work so well! That’s silly of them. They need to give you more choices.

I love that dress, but red has traditionally been a taboo color to wear to a wedding, though it is more acceptable now. Even so, it is still a controversial color and not everyone agrees it is appropriate to wear to a wedding - and that is as a guest - you are more than a guest. I could see you wearing it if your intent was to take a stand and say "F - You" to the couple. But that doesn't seem to be the case here. It seems you want to have a good relationship with everyone after the wedding so don't wear this dress. It is a show-stopping color and this isn't your show to stop.

Honestly, I don't have an issue with red. But if you know that the bride is bothered by it, I would just get a different dress. I don't think it's worth upsetting her, so I'd talk to her directly about a dress color she'd prefer.

My FMIL didn't consult me before buying her dress, and I never expected her to. She showed it to me after she bought it. I don't think they have a say on what YOU wear as long a it's not white or some variation of it. With that said, if it were me I probably would change the dress just to avoid any issues even though I think it's kinda silly.

I told our moms to please not wear black( I personally don’t like black at weddings) and a different color from the bridesmaids as I feel that mothers should stand out from the crowd/bridal party, IMO. They both ended up choosing dark blue dresses which goes with our wedding colors but stands out from bridesmaids and also doesn’t clash with my grandmothers eggplant colored dress. I think the red is fun but I can see it clashing with blush, which isn’t the type of stand out you should go for. Does the dress come in a different color that you like? I don’t love dictating what people wear too much but maybe compromise to not make waves?

This is an issue I really don't get as I would NEVER try to tell my mum or FMIL (or any guest for that matter) what to wear to the wedding. They are both likely to ask my opinion on what they choose but whatever they like and feel comfortable in I'm happy with.

I think the supposed "red taboo" is very old fashioned and tied up with negative stereotypes about women. Red just really suits some colourings. It's actually a colour I think really suits my mum and I would be more than happy for her to wear it to the wedding if that's what she wanted.

It seems to me that the MOB and bride in this scenario are a little too controlling and worried about being outshone. Again, I don't get this. No-one but no-one is going to outshine the bride and groom on their wedding day, I think it's a little petulant for brides to be precious about guests wearing something eye catching and looking great. As for colour palettes in pictures, well you aren't a member of the wedding party and even if you are in some family photos so what? I'd rather have happy, smiling, confident,comfortable guests in my photos than resentful guests who have been given a list of rules.

All that said, if they are going to be silly about it and make a big deal of it, is this the hill you're prepared to die on? You haven't done anything wrong IMO but is it worth the hassle?