Shower and wedding registry

They are correct, cash isn’t appropriate for a shower. I would try to reduce the shower guest list if you can and that way you won’t need to add more gifts to the registry. Most people won’t give physical gifts at the wedding so no need to worry about adding more for that.

I agree. Asking for cash for a shower seems inappropriate, however you can have gift cards on your registry at the stores you have chosen, and that is perfectly acceptable in my opinion. I would also make sure you have some small items and gadgets on your registry because in my experience, people like to gift those along with a gift card that you can use for household items at a later time.

Just don't put any more gifts then and people will either gift cards or other gifts. Remember you can always return something!

Cash is not an appropriate gift for a shower.

I think you’re fine just not adding any more items on your registry. Either people will buy you something off the registry for the shower and give cash or something else off the registry for the wedding. Or in my case, I typically will gift the bride something no on the registry that I know she would like— gift cards to Nordstrom or Sephora, lush products, her favorite perfume, a spa gift card. Last bridal shower that I went to, I gave my girlfriend a Dyson hair dryer. Then I gave her cash for the wedding (my go-to wedding gift).


Don’t ask for cash for a shower though. It’ll rub people the wrong way.

View Quoted Comment I agree with this 100%. Also, 70 people is a huge shower! Showers I've been to are usually in the 20-30 people range. Guests invited to the shower are typically women on the wedding guest list who are closest to the bride. It may be easier to cut the guest list, unless every person on that 70-person guest list is your nearest and dearest. Another thing, if there are some more expensive pieces on your registry (such as a Kitchen-Aid Mixer), people sometimes go in on group gifts to get the bigger ticket items, so 1 gift can be from 2+ people. It works in the reverse to. If you have smaller items, 1 person may buy a few. In my area and my experience, people spend around $50 for the bridal shower gift.

View Quoted Comment 40 of those are immediate family and my bridesmaids and their moms! I have a big family lol. I didn’t think about the multiple buying for some of the bigger ticket items! Thanks for the advice!

I don't see a 70 person gathering being safe or permitted any time soon. I wouldn't worry about the registry having enough gifts. First, many will probably opt to not attend because of covid. Second, my friend had a shower without a registry and people gifted her just fine. Third, people may choose to give a single gift as a family unit (mother and daughter together) rather than gifting individually.

I have a friend doing cash for her shower which is fine, its her thing. Personally I'm doing a registry for the shower even though my fiance and I own a house and have been living together. There's always stuff to update/upgrade.

View Quoted Comment The shower isn’t until September so we will be hopefully good by then! Fingers crossed we won’t have to postpone, but thanks you for the advice

View Quoted Comment Is cash more common for a wedding? We might just keep our registry as is and make a honey fund for the wedding?

View Quoted Comment Yes most people will put cash or check in a card for the wedding. I’m not a fan of honeyfunds but some people are okay with them, they are a know your crowd thing.

Honestly even with a registry for a shower, a lot of people might just get you something else on their own. for instance a lot of my friends used the registry but i also had a lot that didn't

If you've registered for everything you want/need, I would just leave it, but I definitely wouldn't ask for money unless someone asked me directly what would be most useful.