Pre-covid, my cousins had offered to throw me a bridal shower. We saw them yesterday at a graduation party and it looks like I might still be able to have a shower after all but now I have a dilemma with the guest list. First...I know the #1 rule of showers is that everyone invited to the shower must be invited to the wedding. That's not an issue.
Since before covid, I had gone back and forth on whether to have only women at the shower or have it be a couples' shower. I like the idea of having a day with just the ladies, but I kind of dislike the implication that the shower and the housewares are gifts "for me" (my fiance does more dishes than I do!), so I thought of having a couples shower to involve him.
I made a rough guest list today and with just women, it's 16 people, only 12 of whom are adults. Of those I doubt a couple might come. None of my bridesmaids are on it, or any of the women in FI's family, and only one of my other friends because all of them live across the country (we live in the Northeast, near my family; his family and our friends live in the South, where he's from and where we went to college). It's pretty much just my family and a few neighbors. Is 10 people too small?
Along those lines...if we made it a "couples shower", do I invite my male friends, 2 of whom are in the wedding (single, 20s), or just the partners of the women invited to the shower? Would guys even go for that? If I did add guys, it would bring the total to about 25, which is well within what we have room for and the gathering limits.
UGH distance sucks