Siblings & Wedding Party

No one should expect to be in the wedding party, nor should anyone feel obligated to make someone a member of the wedding party just because they're family members. If you're close to your FSIL and he isn't to your brothers, then that's fine! Nothing wrong with having her be part of it and them not. You both need to choose who you both feel the closest and most comfortable with!

For reference, I grew up with one of my bm's and her older sister, but I'm not having the older sister in my wedding simply because I don't have a relationship with her like I do her younger sister. My mom side eyed me for it...lol...but I'd much rather have a few people be upset about that, than give in and make her one just because her sister is one too.

Anyone you can want can be in your wedding party. If you want to include his sister because you are close that's totally fine, but if he doesn't want to include your siblings that's totally fine as well. I don't think it will look odd at all if your brothers aren't included.

I personally hate the idea of inviting anyone to do anything out of obligation. It is never for your benefit or the other person's because there is *always* a meddling 3rd party whose wishes have no business being catered to on your day. It completely takes away from the couple doing anything because they want to..when they spend they spend their time pleasing everyone else instead.


Your bridesmaids are your closest bestest friends/family who are already in your life. No one else is up for consideration. Are you bff's with SIL? If not, she can be a guest. If fiance wants his siblings in the wedding party, he can ask them to stand on his side. The same applies to your siblings. If you want them involved, have them on your side.

You should include those you feel close to, and if you feel close to your FSIL, but your brothers aren't particularly close with you or your FH, it's totally fine to include just her in the wedding party and not your brothers.

Not odd!!! My FH has 3 sisters and he’s always been really close with one. He told me early on that he wanted to ask her to be his best woman. His other two sisters aren’t going to be included in our wedding party because we aren’t as close to them. So to me it’s normal to pick the people you want there. Also, I know it’s not siblings....but I have a bunch of cousins and I only asked one of them to be a part of my party because she’s the one I’ve been closest to my whole life. The others are just invited to the wedding as guests.

Only include people who you are close to in the bridal party, if you are close to his sister ask her I wouldn't ask anyone until about 9 months out relationships change

It's not odd. My only sister and my husbands 2 sisters are in my bridal party as well as both of his brothers. But none of my brothers are his groomsmen and they are fine with that. They don't have a really close relationship so they don't mind not being in it.

No, there's nothing wrong or strange about that.

No, there is nothing weird about that. Your wedding party should be made up of those closest to you. If your FSIL is one of your close friends, you should have her stand up with you. If your fiancé is not close with your brothers, there is no need to have them as a member of his party.

Nothing wrong with that. I’m having his sister and his cousin and he’s having one of my brothers because we are closest to them. I have four brothers but I can’t ask him to include them when he has other people he’s closer to.

Not odd. my husband made his brother a groomsman, but my brother wasn't one. didn't think it was weird because that's not always necessary

I don't think it is odd either way. I have two siblings, sister and brother, and neither are in the wedding. My FH has a brother and that is his Best Man. Your wedding party is just that, yours. Pick the people that you want standing up there next to you both.