Hi All,
I'm a covid bride that had to change my spring wedding to winter.
My brother called me yesterday to tell me that he's planning to propose in the next few weeks to his girlfriend. And that they had been floating the idea of a NYE wedding. He said she's always loved the idea of a NYE wedding, except that it's winter. She wants a summer wedding otherwise. They want a fast engagement because they're almost 40 and want kids (they're 12 years older than us).
But NYE is 9 days before my wedding. That thanks to covid, I will be planning for 2 years.
I told him that I felt like he was stealing my thunder and that I needed time to process it. Then called my parents crying and haven't stopped since.
I feel like I'm being selfish by saying no, you can't pick that date (her dream date), but it's really no you can't pick a date that close to mine.
My parents have said they agree with me. That it's too close. And not fair to me. And not fair to all the family and friends of our family that will be invited to both. They called him this morning to let him know that I was too afraid to tell him how upset I was and that they agree it's too close, but that they also know they can't control when he has his wedding. He said thanks for letting him know.
He's calling me after work to talk to me about it. I'm so upset. And hurt. I feel like having their date is more important than my feelings and my wedding. I just don't know what to say on the phone.
