Single and Planning My Wedding!!

I have no problem with the one day thing, but goign far enough to know the venue you will use, who your coordinator there would be, the invitation company, the florist, etc... is a bit far.

Of course, I think we all had ideas of what we wanted our wedding to be like 'one day.' But now that the day is coming- we've incorporated a few of those ideas, but I know my planning is completely different from what I envisioned, because I wasn't mindful of one very key element- FH!

If you had told me when I was 15 that I'd marry a firefighter and my wedding would loosely revolve around alot of those elements, I would have laughed at you. I would have told you I wanted a huge ball gown with sparkles and a 500 person guest list and a 5 course sit down meal...

Now, all I want to is to be his wife- and I don't care if it's a 10 minute ceremony in front of JOP! The only thing I care about it that all our children are there!

I remember being a little girl me and my sister would look through magazines and pick things out we liked - and for years I always said that Bryan Adams "Everything I do - I do it for you" would be my first dance when I got married - now that I am actually getting married NOTHING of what I thought I wanted is actually happening or what I want now. Like everyone else here has said - it's one thing to DREAM about your wedding and completely different to actually PLAN your wedding, which you absolutely can not really do until you actually are in a committed and loving relationship with someone who truly wants to marry you. To "plan" a wedding with the other half completely missing (and at the moment non-existent) is just ridiculous!!

And I've noticed that she's not had any more input on this matter.

So many women have such valid points.

Uril - I'd like to know in person... she seems a little bit naive for the current times that we are in.

Hmmmm i think we all should not comment ANYMORE

she hasnt made any post since yesterday!! shes just reading all these and laughing probably

@ uril c. "silly rabbit tricks are for kids"

I think I agree with many of the ladies here. Feel free to dream about that day for the time being but "planning" is a whole other ballgame. It takes two people to have a wedding and your wedding should be a reflection of your relationship with your future hubby. Not to mention you are going to place sooo much pressure on whomever comes along not to mention yourself!

Hmmm... a lot is going to change when you meet your FS. and honestly being "prepared" now is going to only set you up for disappointment and fighting with your FS. It's not only YOUR day, it's HIS day too! IMHO, wait until you're engaged to get married. The fun of it is doing it together with the love of your life, you can't get married alone, why would you plan a wedding alone. Also there are going to be traditions that his side might want to incorporate. colors that may have significant meaning to him that he may want to use... I don't know what else to say, other than I don't agree with what you're doing and if anything I think you're jumping the gun...

Oh ooops... didn't see the recent posts... troll much? lol

Hahaha. I heart you, Iguanatan.

Lol Iguanatan. i agree it is silly to plan a wedding when you havent found the one. when i thought of what i wanted for a wedding and actually planning one are totally seperate. This has been a learning expierence with one another and has only brought us closer planning OUR big day and our future. i never thought i would agree to a Nacho fountian ( ya, not normal but if you knew us it would make perfect sence ) and i always thought it would be in my familys back yard but its not since we are having a bigger wedding than planned. if you want to plan something, plan on stopping with what you have planned.

''HI MY NAME IS_______ I HAVE OUR WEDDING PLANNED, HEY WAIT WHERE ARE YOU RUNNING TO? CALL ME? IS THIS A JOKE? TROLL???

I am Christian myself. I understand what you mean by preparing mentally and spiritually for marriage. As far as looking at dresses and cakes you can look but be open to change. My plans have changed several times. Your future spouses taste and the time of year and venue may slightly alter what you've always wanted.