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Ashley
Devoted November 2018

Single guest plus 1's

Ashley, on August 24, 2018 at 8:54 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19
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Before I ask I want to say I know I will get some not so great feedback for asking but here it goes.. I have 3 single guest who I am inviting to the wedding because they are important to me and I grew up with them. They decided to take the harder path in life with drugs, jail, etc. If I give them a plus one I am scared to death of whom they may bring to the wedding. A) Do I suck it up and just give them a plus one or B) Only invite them. I am ok with them not coming, as long as I Iinvited them and they made that choice then I am ok.

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Latest activity by April, on August 24, 2018 at 4:54 PM
  • Ashley
    Devoted November 2018
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    I invited*
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  • C
    Super August 2017
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    If they are dating anyone they should be invited by name. If not, a plus one is not required.
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  • Ashley
    Devoted November 2018
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    That's what I was thinking. They are not dating g anyone that I am aware of and there is nothing on social media that indicates they are.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
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    Will they know anyone else at the wedding? It’s perfectly fine to invite single guests without a plus one, as long as they have someone else to socialize with.
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  • Ashley
    Devoted November 2018
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    Oh yeah. 1 has mutual friends, 1 had their grand parents, and the other has their mother and step father there.
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  • C
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    There were a few of my guests I wasn’t sure about too. Some I asked. Some I just put their name and if they mentioned that they were dating someone I planned on extending the invitation.
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  • Munchkin9218
    Master September 2018
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    Are these three the only single guests? Are there other single guests who have not gone through hard times that you will be giving a plus one two?


    If these three people are the only single people then you aren't required to give them a plus one. But basically you have to do the same thing across the board, and cannot just single these people out. So if they are just three of a larger group of single guests you have to do the same thing across the board for everyone (so basically like if you have 6 single guests total, and you're only worried abotu these three you can't say no plus one for them and plus ones for the other three). It's pretty much all or nothing in regards to plus ones.


    Agree that if any of them is in a relationship the couple gets invited together no matter what.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted November 2018
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    They are the only single ones except for a few in the bridal party but I am giving the single members of the bridal party the option since they are spending a ton of time and money on our wedding as well.
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  • Ashley
    Devoted November 2018
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    That is a good idea. Leave it in their hands.
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  • Rachel
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    No plus 1 from me... with how expensive weddings are, people tend to understand if you can't give them a plus one when they're not in a long term relationship. It's also your day to enjoy and you shouldn't feel obligated to have people at your wedding you don't know or trust.
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  • c
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    If they are in a relationship, extend the plus one. If they aren't, no plus one needs to be given. If you are giving a plus one, make the guest's name clear on the invitation so they know you're only extending an invite to that person.

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  • Kodi
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    I wouldn't do a plus one then, they'll be fine.


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  • Tori
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    Yeah, you don't have to give them a plus one and I wouldn't worry about it. It's customary to give single bridal party members a plus one, even if they aren't dating anyone, so they can have the option. Some of our bridal party we know won't bring a plus one, but it's there just in case. We only know a few singles, and they're not getting a plus one. Pretty much everyone we invited is married or in a serious relationship.

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  • MrsD
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    I'm not giving plus ones to single people, period! Anyone with a significant other can totally bring them, but no one is getting a plus one. If someone is in a relationship, I addressed the invite to both of them. I'm not paying $100+ per person for people I don't know!

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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
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    I have 4 single people that we are inviting to the wedding. None of them have a significant other, so none of them got a plus one. We don't want random people at our wedding.

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  • Ashley
    Devoted November 2018
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    How did they respond?
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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
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    They were completely fine with it. Knowing that they would not be the only single people there helped, I am sure. It would have been awkward had it only been one guest and the rest of the attendees be couples.

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  • Tara
    Master September 2018
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    I am giving plus 1s to all singoes at mine but in this situation i would not, especially since they will know someone. My sister is "recovering" drug addict and she is not even invited. On a day that special its not worth the risk.
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  • April
    Super November 2018
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    I think that unless they are in a serious relationship, there is no etiquette here that implies they need a plus1

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