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Elise
Beginner August 2019

Sister copying everything

Elise, on August 13, 2019 at 11:05 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 18
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Ok so sort of a long story but my sister has been engaged to a guy off and on for the past 4 years. They never had a wedding date until my fiance and I announced our engagement then 6 months later she has a wedding date and shes planning her wedding when I planning mine. Well shortly after her wedding planning starts she breaks up with him for another guy which she has 5 other times in the past 3 years and then they get back together and after losing all their deposits from cancelling their wedding plans the first time they decide 3 weeks before my wedding they're getting married and posting it all over social media and I honestly just think it's because I'm getting married and shes jealous. She cant love someone that she has cheated on and it's just so hard for me not to feel like shes just doing it because shes jealous of the attention I'm gonna get from getting married. I just feel like venting and just wondering if anyone else thinks its wrong for her to suddenly start planning a thrown together wedding that's 3 weeks after mine

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Latest activity by Elise, on August 14, 2019 at 7:40 PM
  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    I would feel the same way as you do. It's unfortunate that she just can't allow you to have your time then have hers. I agree that you can't love someone and cheat on them. I'm sorr you're having to go through this

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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
    Elise ·
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    Thank you. I cant stop complaining about it to my FH and it seriously just makes me enraged when I see her talking about it on social media. She was also married in the past and she got married the first time while I was engaged to my first husband and she actually got married at the venue I told her I wanted to get married at. I want so badly to confront her but I really dont want her drama this close to my wedding.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I don’t think it’s “wrong” for her to be planning her wedding at the same time as you, but it does sound pretty unstable. I really wouldn’t be concerned about her on again off again engagement or her wedding that may or may not even happen.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Just focus on your wedding Smiley smile her relationship will run its own course and it won't take away from yours. You don't have to disclose to her all the things you're doing for yours either.
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  • D
    Super July 2020
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    I'd steer clear of her relationship train wreck. It's pretty obvious she doesn't know how to have a stable relationship and confronting her would do little good. She probably wants what you have...stability. It must be irritating to you. I get it. On the other hand you can see it as a compliment of sorts. Something she aspires to be or have.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    Irritating? Yup. But it’s AFTER yours, thank goodness. Honestly, who knows if it’ll even happen. Just say “congrats” and let it go. Buuut... don’t share any of your details or she might swipe them (again, her wedding is after yours so no biggie but still).
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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
    Elise ·
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    That's what my FH says too. I'm gonna unfollow her on facebook so I dont have to see any of her stuff and just focus on myself
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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
    Elise ·
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    I really think she is jealous of my relationship. I haven't told her anything about my wedding and tbh what she told me so far about hers its sounds pretty tacky. I'm just gonna get through my wedding and just ignore her the best I can.
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  • Kelly
    VIP October 2020
    Kelly ·
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    Just remember you have a stable relationship, a wedding doesn't make a relationship. At the end of the day she can copy your wedding but won't have the same relationship.
    My cousin is the same, she has a new man every other week. Told her I wasn't having her as a bridesmaid and suddenly she's engaged to the flavor of the week. They've literally been together a week. 🤦
    Just don't give her too many details and unfollow her on media.
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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
    Elise ·
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    Omg that is crazy ! And yes my sisters relationship is a mess and I think deep down she wants a relationship like mine. She literally copies everything i do. My daughters middle name is noelle so her daughters middle name is joelle she even went and got highlights so her hair was like mine and about a month ago I showed her a pic of a pedicure I got and I saw her a week later with her nails the exact color. She just gets on my nerves lol. She can never be herself.
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  • Yana
    Dedicated October 2019
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    Oh boy! seems like she is jealous of your wedding/relationship... at least she's planning it AFTER your big day! just focus on your wedding planning and let her do her thing. just curious, is this an older or younger sister? if she's older then i sorta see why shes trying to do this (jealousy of course and also because if shes older she feels like she should have gotten married first and is trying to rush it?)

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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
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    She is my younger sister. Her relationship is a such a joke they don't even get along now I guess she thinks this will save her relationship not sure 🤷🏼‍♀️
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  • Emily
    Dedicated October 2021
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    I can relate to your issues because they are sounding similar to what I am having to deal with for my future sister in law. My biggest advice to you is to keep everything that you are doing for your wedding a secret including making your possible Pinterest wedding board locked or unable to be viewed. For all we know, they will break up in a couple of months anyways.

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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
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    I have it locked so no one can see it but me and I'm sure they will break up if they even make it to their wedding date. Another thing I forgot to mention before is she keeps asking me in person and via text message about my FHs single friend which someone that's so in "love" and happy to be getting married should definitely not be doing. I honestly dont know what is wrong with people.
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  • Ceelie
    Expert August 2019
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    Wow.. that's a lot of back and forth haha. I wouldn't spend any time worrying about what she's trying to do. It doesn't even sound stable based on her history? People can usually tell when someone's trying a little too hard to get attention... I wouldn't give any details on what you're doing for your wedding like colors and the venue and stuff. Keep it on the DL and enjoy the planning (as best you can lol)

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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
    Elise ·
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    Yes her relationship is anything but stable and I'm definitely not telling her anything and thanks I'm just ignoring her the best I can.
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    There is no point worrying g about her. Her instability must show to everyone else, too. And she was married before. Let her talk, brag, on again off again. Ignore it all. Don't discuss her wedding details, just say you want to be surprised when it happens. As long as you keep feeding wild animals now and then, they persistently come around. She feeds on the attention, positive attention , and also negative attention, provoking you to anger. Don't give it to her . Just withdraw all attention. Say, Oh, how nice . . . Whether she is talking about something spectacular or awful, say how nice, or some meaningless thing. Then ignore her.
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  • Elise
    Beginner August 2019
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    Thank you !
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