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Beginner November 2021

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Felicia, on March 23, 2021 at 9:09 AM

Ok so from the beginning I knew my very best friend would be my maid of honor. My baby sister always knew this. So when time came and I actually asked them to be a part of my wedding they both said yes. My bestie completely excited and my sister was just like ya ok. So as the days go by and colors are picked , some dresses are purchased, and plans are being made... I’m still asking my baby sister if she is ready to go get her dress picked and sized. This has been a problem because she continues to say ‘my husband won’t let me go anywhere’ ‘told you I have the kids’ or ‘you know he doesn’t let us do anything, how do you think he’s gonna let me go’. So finally I asked if she was still going to be a bridesmaid? Her response’We will see if he lets me’. She won’t even go to the bachelorette get away... she’s a married woman and this would cause problems. First everyone going is either married or in a relationship but ok.... what do y’all think I should do? Continue asking or just let her be?

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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on March 23, 2021 at 4:36 PM
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Forget continuing to ask her. There seems to be a bigger elephant in the room here! Her husband won’t let her attend her own sisters wedding or wedding things?!

Does this not throw up red flags and sirens all over the place to you??
With all due respect, I know I don’t know the situation, but are you at all worried about the situation your sister might be in?
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June 2021
Dj Tanner · on March 23, 2021 at 4:53 PM
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OK so I’ve read some of your responses and if what you’re saying is true and your sister is not in any sort of unsafe relationship, then it seems like your sister might just be using her husbands just like for you as an excuse. Do you think she’s just throwing her husband under the bus to not participate or go to your wedding? If this is what you think, then there’s definitely got to be a lot more to the story that we aren’t hearing.... do you think there might be anything that would be a bit more helpful for us to know? Like some sort of major fight you got into? Backstory drama? If you think she’s just using him as an excuse and throwing him under the bus, then maybe you shouldn’t have her at your wedding at all
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Vicky · on March 24, 2021 at 12:01 AM
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Everyone else has commented on the relationship red flags, so I'm going to focus on the dress issue. Your wedding is in November, so she has plenty of time to get the dress still. You don't need to know when she's getting it; she just needs to get it before your wedding, sometime in the next 7+ months. Make sure she has the dress information and then treat her like the adult she is and let her get it on her own timeline. She also doesn't need to attend a bachelorette get away, and since she's using her husband to make excuses it doesn't sound like she wants to. That's fine. Just assume that all she's going to do is show up at the wedding in the dress, which is all she has to do anyway.
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