Okay. Here is my dilema. My sister in law is in her late 60s-early 70.s I have been married for 34 years. Since she doesnt speak English well it is hard to talk to her. She was here from October 23rd until December 15th of 2018 and I feel like I am finally getting to an even keel and it is now APRIL. It was a LOT to host her for that long, and her demands on my time, with expectations to provide her with three meals a day, (Since I dont cook for myself and just skip breakfast and have a can of tuna or something, and no one here to cook for on weekdays), as well as "entertain her" for two long months was horrible. Plus I have OCD and keep my house immaculate and she was a SLOB and even using the bathroom everyday would get water EVERYWHERE and since we have a brand new home I constantly had to go clean up behind her and wipe up water so baseboards did not get ruined, etc. She treated me like a maid and would throw her laundry in the hall for me to pick up and wash, and so many more issues I had to deal with. Now that she found out my son is getting married, she wants to COME BACK *SHUDDER* and stay for, get this, ANOTHER in-determinant amount of time. AND, at MY HOUSE. I was told this by hubby last night and looked at him like he was psycho. We have a 5 bedroom home and all my sons live here with us, and there is three bedrooms upstairs and my bedroom and guest bedroom are downstairs. My son and his new wife of course want privacy and were going to stay in guest bedroom to be away from brothers upstairs and rightly so. In Pakistan the bride goes to grooms house as a tradition and we are doing that. My son now is extremely upset that she will be here and since she is so old and extremely overweight, she has difficulty climbing stairs and my husband is insisting that the new bride and groom remain upstairs with his brothers, all are over 21, and my son is MORTIFIED. I asked him why she would come and stay with us seeing as we will be running around to the venue, doing last minute things and also myself getting ready and he got extremely upset and said I am selfish and rude and a stupid person who only cares about her house and not people. I lived in a three bedroom home with him that was built in 1956 for 18 years and we built this home from the ground up and have now lived here almost 2 years and yes, I do freak out when people come in here and dont treat my home with respect , touch all my stuff, make messes, drop water on real hardwood floors and leave it, etc. He in fact has given me the silent treatment ALL DAY, threatened me with divorce, all because I asked him how I would accomplish hosting her and also focusing on my son, my new daughter in law and getting ready as well, and now, I wont even get to decorate that room as a bridal suite and have been buying decorations for MONTHS to make it absolutely breathtaking for them. I apologized to him and told him I was sorry for asking but he started screaming at me, this was around 2 am, and then proceeded to go in said room and slept there remained of the night. I am heartbroken. I do love my sister in law, dont get me wrong. I just feel it is unfair of her to come and stay. AND STAY. AND STAY. And put all of these demands on me. While she was here the entire two months her and my husband sit and talk for hours in Urdu and I am left to just sit there, and if I leave or use phone I get scolded that I am being "RUDE" so I am expected to just sit there and not even be included. I endured this for months and am now expected to go through all of this again. I have no idea when she will be here but I am DREADING it and would love some advice on how to get through this as I feel all happiness around an event I have waited for since looking into my newborns eyes is completely drained away as I will now become a house servant/cook/maid to this woman again and not even feel like celebrating such a momentous occasion and my husband will NEVER change his mind. He still has not talked to me since coming home from work today and it was a simple QUESTION that threw him into this wrath so I just dont know what to do..... HELP!!!!!!
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