Sister-in-law says she won’t attend due to new baby.

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Possibly, I am a mother to a 5 year old and I wouldn't even travel out of the country with him. Its very hard traveling with kids in general let along an infant. Everything you have to pack and what not. Not to mention out of the country is at least 2 days worth of traveling let alone the stay in the foreign country and wedding. Definitely not something I would be willing to leave my child for unless my husband was home with him or my parents (but not at 10 months old). I didn't leave my son over night with my parents until he was 1 anyways. But that could just be me I know A LOT of moms (a lot on here as well) that have very similar opinions too. But to each their own.

View Quoted Comment Very true to each his own. Everyone’s experiences play into their preferences and views. I have 5 sisters. We mean the world to each other. There’s nothing we wouldn’t do for each other. We also bind together to help each other. Traveling with a child wouldn’t be a complete burden because there would be a team of us getting it done. I have 3 children. I’ve traveled with my first child as young as 6 months. We weren’t going out of the country and it’s not something I would sign up for eagerly... but it wasn’t an impossible feat. I’m not talking about a close friend or a cousin... this is my “brother”. I don’t have one but I imagine if I did I’d feel the same way I feel about my sisters... I’d be there. If traveling with my baby... enduring a bit of inconvenience... some strain and drain... to stand in place on my sibling’s day makes me crazy... or the concept that doing so is craziness then 🤷🏽‍♀️ Ma’am I’m psycho! I thought it was being supportive and selfless but perspectives vary from person to person.... maybe my sense of duty and strong will varies from others because I am the oldest... but I know how much my presence means and I’d never make them feel they have to stray from their hearts desire just to have me in attendance.... it’s not about me. If you won 100 million dollars but had to go to another country to get it... with a 10 month old... would you go or would you pass on the money because traveling with an infant is crazy??? People do what they WANT to do no matter the hardship or inconvenience... I value my sibling getting married no different than a heap of money. 1 heart 5 beats... that’s us. So maybe understanding how close we are will make you view my perspective as less craziness and more supportive and full of love.

View Quoted Comment This!!! Exactly my thoughts, this is a sister who says she’d do ANYTHING for her siblings. Yet she refuses to even consider options for attending.
On my end, I can empathize with her and I know in my original posting I came off less understanding. At the end of the day, I know having a DW is asking a lot from people and I would absolutely not hold it against her if she didn’t come. The problem is my FH accepting the fact that she won’t be there, and if he can’t then we’ll have to change our plans and that’s not fair to me either

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Oh no girl, I never viewed you as psycho or crazy. My original post was more so about the fact I wouldn't leave my 10 month old for multiple nights and that a 10 month old is not a toddler but that was never to come across as rude so I apologize if I did. I just know personally its not something I would have done with my 10 month old BUT I was also a single mother with no one else to help. I would hate to burden the bride and groom but if there was other family to lean on and help with the 10 month old it would definitely make it more doable. Everyone circumstances are different. I traveled from Florida to New York when My son turned 1 for my brothers wedding and I had my parents with me (we drove) and it was still CRAZY! But everyone's situations are different and I definitely understand where you are coming from.

UPDATE: Sister in law is hurt because her and her growing family weren’t considered in our decision. She’s also trying to influence my FH into changing his mind and probably will make the rest of the family question attending the wedding. I’m in big trouble