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Sister in law

Sami, on July 25, 2021 at 3:41 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 12

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My sister in law didn’t ask me to be in her wedding. She beat around the bush and asked me to do a reading and then never mind to me doing that and then for me to be her wedding coordinator, I said yes and then realized it was a pitty asking and she didn’t needed me. So I stepped out that position plus I had finals and nursing entrance exam to study for so I didn’t feel so bad stepping down because it was a pitty ask. Before all of this with her wedding I asked her to be in my wedding. I’ll spare everyone the time but she causes a lot of family drama during her wedding and said a lot mean things to my parents during this time as well as me stepping down and away from her wedding. i only asked her because she was going be my SIL and thought help our relationship and it really hasn’t. And I truly don’t want her a bridesmaid anymore. I know obviously asking her not to be anymore will cause issues but it’s my day and I just truly don’t want someone standing up there next to me who is so rude to my parents, uses them and is so unappreciative of them. Let alone the same to me. It’s always about her can never be about me. They day we got engaged she turned back onto her and my whatever 100 rolls she tried to make for me for her wedding. I’m just hurt that she has made zero effort to being my sister in law and cares more about creating drama.

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Michelle · on July 25, 2021 at 4:33 PM
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Cut her and cut her now. I have zero tolerance for drama. She's already drama now and you don't need that come the wedding day or at any events prior. Your bridesmaids should be made up of people who truly care about your happiness.
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Michelle · on July 25, 2021 at 4:55 PM
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Asking someone to be a bridesmaid is not the appropriate time or place to get to know future in laws or to please the parents.

You only pick your closest, most supportive current innermost social circle. Usually asking someone to step down is a friendship ending move, but if there was no friendship to begin with and she’s a bitter mean person, then her behavior will only reflect badly on her, not you. Cut off contact with her and do not expect her to change her ways because narcissistic bullies do not believe they are ever wrong.
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Sami · on July 25, 2021 at 6:23 PM
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Thanks I need this! We were okay at first but in last year she’s just become god awful to my family & me.
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Sami · on July 25, 2021 at 6:24 PM
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Thank you! It’s been hard because my parents and the drama but I just don’t love the idea of her standing up with me anymore after she’s been god awful to me and my family the past year and half.
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Michelle · on July 25, 2021 at 6:24 PM
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Go permanent no contact
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Sami · on July 25, 2021 at 6:25 PM
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She’s my SIL so it half be hard because family events. But I probably will. She make zero effort to contact me it’s always been me, even before all this.
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Sami · on July 25, 2021 at 6:26 PM
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I just don’t even know what to say to her without being the biggest b**** and same time idc that I am 😂
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Michelle · on July 25, 2021 at 6:35 PM
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You don’t have to interact or invite her for coffee. Everyone can see what her behavior is like and it’s possible that others feel the same as you but don’t want to rock the boat.
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Sami · on July 25, 2021 at 6:36 PM
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This is exactly it! Thank you! I need this! I’m the only one bold enough to rock the boat and nobody else wants to. Thank you for commenting!!
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Michelle · on July 25, 2021 at 6:43 PM
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No problem and maybe just something short and sweet...straight to the point. "Hey I've decided that I truly only need or want those closest to me on the big day as my support." And leave it be, let her sit and wonder about it. Say no thanks and walk away. I think it's better just to go straight for it. Time is precious and shouldn't be wasted on people who truly don't care about you as you won't get these moments back.
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Sami · on July 25, 2021 at 6:56 PM
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Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!
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Katie · on July 26, 2021 at 7:56 AM
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I agree you only choose those closest to be in the wedding and on a later time you can make the effort to get closer with family members.

I'd cut her quick because she will just ruin everything for you and only get worse.
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