Hey Y'all,
I have been struggling with getting over the fact that my sister has decided to get married right before our wedding. My fiance and I have been dating for over three and a half years. He asked me to marry him over the summer time. We were over the moon with excitement! My sister who is in the military found a boyfriend over the summer time. We are so excited for her since she has had a rough time in that department. They announced to us in September that they were getting married. We were a little surprised because they were only dating a few months, but still so excited. They said that they were going to sign their marriage license within the next few months. Now, at first I was a little bit upset by this because we had just announced our engagement and felt like she was stealing the spotlight from us. However, she is in the military and we understood that she needed the documentation right away so they didn't separate them. I quickly let that one go because I completely understood her situation. She did mention that they were going to have a real ceremony later because she wanted to have a real wedding. Once again, that is fabulous and we are so excited for her! Then she announced that it will be six weeks before my wedding. I am still struggling with this.
I have been waiting to marry my fiance for close to four years and she decided to get married (her ceremony) right before ours to the guy she met six months prior. I know I should feel happy for her, and I do, but I get mad every time she talks about her wedding. If she is already legally married, why can't she wait until after our big day to have hers? I feel like that is just a little bit rude of her and it bothers me. What really bothers me is that is it is bothering me! Why can't I just let this go? I think one of the problems is that as a child (and let's face it, adult) I blend into the background easily and people tend to forget that I am there. For a long time I have been dreaming about my wedding day, and with that came a fun year where for once I was in the light and not ignored. Now I feel like I am being overshadowed again by my sister. Of all the events a person can have in their life, this was the one thing that I did not want to share with someone. I wanted it to be about me and my fiance. I feel like such a horrible sister, but I am struggling to let this one go. Any suggestions?
