Sister Wants To Have Wedding On My Birthday Weekend

Mrs A&J took the words right outa my mouth!

Also, I can't imagine caring that much about my birthday at 35. Im 29 and don't care anymore.

Are you going to be 35 or 13? Grow up!

You are going to be 35. Do you really want to celebrate that age? (For the record, we are the same age)

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I'm on here because I had a wedding question - and what better place to ask a wedding related question than on a wedding website! I'm also the MOH so yes, I have been very active in the planning. Several of you obviously did not read my entire post - the catch 22 is wanting to celebrate my birthday on my birthday, which is the day of the rehearsal but since it's her "wedding weekend" many people have told me I'm not allowed to celebrate because it will take away from the bride. And yes, no one can bring a date if they aren't in a "committed relationship," my sister doesn't care that I'm her sister/MOH because if she let me, she would have to let others bring a date.

Celebrate the day after the wedding if its a Sunday. Or celebrate the weekend before or after. Its not difficult.

My birthday was on a Tuesday last year. I didn't get to celebrate on my birthday because I had to go to work. Grow up and pick a different day.

Ok. The 'clarification' made it worse. Ostrich.

Wow, I know it's general opinion you get one day and I truly believe that, but I do find it a bit inconsiderate that your sister didn't take that into consideration, given there isn't a specific reason for choosing that date. We made sure to avoid days of our family b days and other events but in all reality it's hard to find a date that doesn't coincide with someone's b day. Our wedding day was on one on my best friend's husbands b day and I was glad they joined us but made a point to also tell him happy b day.

Is this real life? You are mad because you can't celebrate your 35th Bday because it your sisters rehearsal dinner? Grow up! Get over it. And celebrate the following week. You aren't 21. Seriously?!?

And the fact that you expected your sister to rearrange her wedding because it's near your birthday is so unbelievably selfish! You are being ridiculous!

You can celebrate it another day close by, and chances are your sister is going to do a little thing to celebrate you too. But even if she doesn't, who cares?!

It's really not that big a deal to celebrate your birthday the weekend before or after, and as others have said, it's just one birthday out of many. There are many factors that go into choosing a wedding date, such as venue availability, vendor availability, etc., so no, I don't think your sister is being selfish by choosing that date. In my opinion, your sister should let you bring a date (I think anyone in the bridal party and/or immediate family should have the option), but it's ultimately her call. Maybe try to get her to change her mind about that... If you're supportive of the wedding date, she might be more inclined to do so.

Then celebrate your birthday the weekend before. It's your birthday, it happens once every 365 days, nobody cares.

I can't believe you are 35. Is that a typo?

I think you should suck it up. One of my bridesmaids will be having their 5th anniversary on our rehearsal day and she is not making a big stink. We're going to make an announcement and have a nice gift. Your sister may do the same.

Wow, at 35 I wanted to forget my birthday. Get over yourself, you are being very selfish. The only thing you have a right to be perturbed about is not being able to bring a date.

Get over it. Please.

My cousin got married on my 21st birthday and i didn't moan and groan about it. It's her wedding day, let her do it when she wants. That date might have a special meaning for her or maybe that is all the venue had.

Since you pointed out that she is your younger sister by 5 years, I'm going to be a jerk and ask if you're salty she is getting married before you? Because the way I see it, you go to the RH fulfill your MOH duties and then grab some pals for a drink. Celebrate on a Sunday. How about the Thursday night before, at midnight? You have options... But it looks to me that you're just a jealous big sister looking to make this about yourself. Get over it!

Yeah...I'd love to side with you but it's ridiculous. Perhaps your sister would wish you a happy birthday at the rehearsal dinner? If it's REALLY that it of a deal. I honestly don't get your beef-celebrate the week before or after. I would be more upset that you, as MOH, don't get to bring a date, not even a good friend.

Are you serious????? You are turning 35, not 16. I'm not typically this blunt--but get over yourself. This is your sisters wedding. You are coming across as selfish and jealous. I can only hope you act your actual age at her wedding. Grow up!