Sister Wants To Have Wedding On My Birthday Weekend

Sometimes stuff happens on your birthday and you can't control it. Last year I went to my friend's husband's funeral on my birthday.

Here ya go Samantha! Only they did not forget, but made plans instead. I also have gone to a funeral on my bday. Grow up

Why can't you bring a date?

My wedding is on my sisters birthday...she's deceased. I could have chosen any day of the year but, I chose her birthday as a way to share my special day with my sister forever. How do you know no one will celebrate your birthday too.and if they don't who TF cares ..you'll be 35...not 25 it's not that deep...

How many birthdays have you had in your life? so you have to miss one or have to postpone your festivities to the week after. Oh the Horror!

imo forget about the birthday thing and inquire as to why she won't allow you to bring a date

I can't tell if you are being serious or just trolling, but ok, I'll bite: You need to grow up and suck it up. Sure, birthdays are great- but you get to have one every year, and guess what- life goes on for everyone else during a person's birthday. In this case, your sister is experiencing a one-time, life changing event, and you should be willing to support her as any good sister would.

ETA: I should have also mentioned-- her wedding day isn't even the same day as your birthday, so you really have no right to feel upset. Since when do people think it's okay to turn a one day birthday into a weekend-long birthdaypalooza? That baffles me.

Well it's not like the rehearsal is going to last the whole 24 hours of your birthday. And you said you're single so I understand why you're not offered a plus one. In case you didn't know weddings are expensive.

Were you hiring a clown to perform at your birthday party? Is the retainer non-refundable? Are you serious?

Read Susan's post. Would you not attend a funeral if it coincided with the day you wanted to wear a pointy party hat and blow a noisemaker? Sorry, this is too ridiculous to take seriously.

Kudos to Centerpiece! In honor of her spot on post, a celebratory birthday ostrich. Of course, I am sure this will be stealing birthday thunder as well.

I don't understand why people are criticizing the OP for being on the forum even though she isn't planning her own wedding. Like wtf - she has a wedding-related question. We have MOBs, MOGs, MOHs, and BMs on here all the time with questions. This is not unusual or some kind of WW offense.

I think you are over reacting and it will be just fine. If I were you, I'd talk to my sister and try to sway her on bringing a date. You have the morning and afternoon to do whatever birthday activity you choose, and maybe after the rehearsal dinner, you and your friends can get a drink. Since all your family will be there, I think it's appropriate to have a small birthday cake (read: not a mini wedding cake) at the rehearsal dinner for dessert. If people think that's "taking away from the bride", they are being ridiculous because you get a birthDAY and she gets a wedding DAY. I

Just celebrate the following weekend. It's not that big of a deal.

Bottom line, it is what it is.....you're going to have to suck it up and celebrate "on your b-day" next year. This year, you pick another night.

I don't get the big deal either.

My best friend (now one of my bridesmaids) got married on my birthday (the first birthday on a Saturday I had in years) and I was her personal attendant. They sang me Happy Birthday at the reception, and another friend took me out back and stuck a candle in a piece of wedding cake and had me blow it out. It was cute. It really wasn't that big of a deal, and I got to celebrate the next day. The bride and groom even stopped at the restaurant on their way out of town for their honeymoon! It's one day, and you will survive. I promise. :-)

I don't think this is a big deal either. I come from a family that celebrates everyone's birthday every year, usually we just do a fun new restaurant. But you can always celebrate your birthday before or after the wedding festivities.

Can you be upset? Yes, you can feel however you'd like about this. I can understand wanting to do something special to celebrate, such as going out for a birthday dinner with the family or something like that, but you can just as easily do something to celebrate your birthday the day before.

I also don't think she chose the wedding date to be spiteful to you. Some people specifically choose their wedding date to coincide with other huge events in the family such as other birthday and anniversaries, so that everyone gets to celebrate these events together in the future and other people make a point of avoiding holidays so that everyone gets their own special date, and some don't even take birthdays and anniversaries into consideration when choosing their date - it really depends on the bride and groom's preferences. There's a lot to consider when choosing a wedding date. Have you talked to her about why she chose that date? It could be that she wanted to get married during a particular month or is trying to avoid other events in the family (either yours or his) and this just happened to be the weekend that worked out the best for them. Honestly, it's just a birthday. You will have plenty more and you don't have to celebrate your birthday on the actual date for it to be a special and meaningful day for you. Your sister only gets married once. Find a way to do something for yourself the day before the rehearsal and let your sister enjoy her weekend.

You're being ridiculous.

I think there is more to this story.

I don't think you should make a big deal about it. When FH asked one of his oldest friends for his address so we can send him a save the date he asked when it was and FH told him. He replied that is was his birthday weekend (not his birthday) and wouldn't know until the week of our wedding if he would be able to make it because it would depend on his plans for his bday. He is like 30 something and honestly it was like WTF? FH and you have a long past and he is willing to miss his wedding because he may or may not go out for his bday weekend? I was stuck on whether I was overreacting or he was immature. I think people take their bdays wayy to seriously. Like they have birthday weeks!?!? I just turned 30 yesterday and I didn't have a birthday week! I had a birthday! One day. I invited all my closes friends to a club and everyone showed up had a great time for a couple hours and now it's no longer my birthday and life went on.

It is her ONE wedding. I wouldn't make a big deal about it all. Keep your annoyances to yourself. Maybe she just like how the day sounded, which is why she chose that day/weekend. I choose my wedding date because I liked how it sounded. Lol.

People still celebrate birthdays after 21? I turned 30 last October. I room the day off work...(first time ever) and did nothing. My fiancé made me grilled cheese for dinner lol. Seriously get

Over it! Also, my cousin got married on my 21st birthday. I didn't care. They called all the people with birthdays in October to the dance floor. They took our pic with the bride and groom and gave each of us a cake.