Sister Wants To Have Wedding On My Birthday Weekend

A good friend of my mine got married on my birthday and I was in the wedding. Do you know how many fucks I gave about it? None. I didn't even think twice about it.

There are a ton of worse ways to spend your birthday. Want to know how I spent my birthday this year? Sick and in bed because I had my last chemotherapy treatment the day before. It was a great way to ring in 31. Seriously, get he fuck over yourself and just be happy for your sister.

Get over yourself. It's her day not yours. She's your sister you show up and get over it and enjoy your birthday with your sister and her wedding party. Unless you are bringing your husband, why should you get a plus one for a date? Your profile says you are recently married, therefore you don't get to bring a date for the night unless it's your husband. You are turning 35 not 21 or 15 or 18 or something. It's time to act like an adult.

Get over it.

My birthday is Christmas Eve, but, you know, Jesus and Santa Claus overshadow me on that day every year. It's not even Jesus's birthday that day! The nerve.

I should really tell everyone that they shouldn't have any other celebrations that day. It's my BIRTHDAY!

Good point, FML...my firstborn is due to arrive 12/26 this year. I totally on purpose managed to line it up so that every single year there will be some event that COULD overshadow the bday celebrations. I'm thinking that he/she will be well-versed with the concept of sharing a birthday with some VIPs...maybe that's how to do it!

Aren't you happy for your sister? Celebrate your birthday on a different day if its really a big deal. You're turning 35 which isnt a milestone so I dont get what the hype is all about. I wouldnt be upset if I were you. You get cake, food, dancing and booze at the wedding so to me that's even better.

I mean at 35 you go and have a nice dinner and maybe a few drinks, right?

Sooo rehearsal means you get a nice dinner. And you'll have a few drinks at the wedding that you don't have to pay for.

I'd see this as a win/win for me.

Rynney, it's not the best, TBH, but I'm over it. I used to get upset as a kid (note-- a kid, because kids are by definition immature and can get upset about things like that) because I never had a birthday party on my actual birthday. I did always have off from school, though!

Now, I only get a little annoyed if I get a birthday present wrapped in Christmas paper, because it's not really acceptable to do that at any other time of the year. (Seriously, if my bday was in June, would you have used that paper?) And yes, I realize it's silly because I'm grateful for any gift. At this stage in my life, though, I only really get gifts from family members and FH, so they know.

It is what it is. I was over it by the time I was about 15. You know, a good 20 years before OP.

Get over yourself. All the more reason to get to celebrate

I'm getting married on my uncles birthday, he isn't making a fuss. We are getting married the day before there is a 50th wedding anniversary. They aren't raising a fuss. We are going to get both my uncle and my great aunt and uncle cakes and sing to my uncle. We have a anniversary dance planned for the 50th anniversary. Honestly get over it.

Instead of being upset that your sister is getting married on your birthday weekend (Seriously, who does birthday weekends after 21??) you should be happy for your sister.

Why do you want to celebrate your 35th birthday in a big way? I am curious. I stopped going out for my birthday years ago and I am not 30 yet. I think once you get to a certain age, it is weird to keep making a huge deal out of it. When you're 50 or 60, maybe... But 35? I don't get it.

Double post-sorry!

I think a few PP have hit it on the head. This is a big bag of jealousy here. Your YOUNGER sister is getting married before you and ALMOST on your birthday. I'm assuming by the immaturity about the whole celebrating your birthday, you do not have kids. So in your world, you get one day that is all about you. You get to be a special little snowflake for 24 hours. Every other day of the year the attention has been on your sister's wedding. At 35 you need to put on your big girl panties. If you get married you'll have your time in the spot light, but you have had 34 birthdays to date. She gets one day. You need to just be happy for her. Go to the rehearsal completely on Team Little Sister, go to the dinner, and you can always meet friends after? Unless of course, your birthdays involve getting stupid to where you would be hung over for your sister's wedding. That's not cool either.

Krystina, when this opened last night she had a name (Summer), and a future wedding date. When she went Private User, the marriage date changed!

I just wanna throw it out there that not every one stops celebrating birthdays after 21. Birthday weekends maybe.

I think it's ok to celebrate your birthday but my main problem with this post is that if you have to celebrate the day before or after your birthday one time because of something like a wedding it's not a big deal and no one needs a birthday week or weekend and it annoys me when people pull that shit. I literally roll my eyes at them. No one is God's gift to earth and needs to celebrate their birthday for days on end. It's only ok to do that when you turn 21 and can go out to the bars for the first time other than that no one cares! My cousin got married the day before my brother's birthday and he didn't throw a hissy fit that it was during his birthday weekend.

I can't believe this conversation is still going on.

Just popped in to say that our rehearsal/RD is on one of my BM's birthdays. She is PUMPED to get a free food and drinks on her birthday and has been completely wonderful about it.

So basically, the opposite of you.

Maybe she's going to plan something special for you. We got married 2 days after my step-daughter's birthday, our rehearsal was on the birthday of a close friend and our wedding was on the birthday of one of my SILs. At the rehearsal dinner I had special cakes for all 3 and we sang Happy Birthday to them. Even if your sister doesn't do anything for you I'm pretty sure you can still celebrate the weekend before or after her wedding.