Skipping toasts

We aren’t having them at the wedding. We are keeping the option open to anyone who wants to say something at the rehearsal dinner, but not expecting it.

I don't think people would notice at all. I wasn't going to have them at my reception but I did ask my MOH and the bestwoman if they would like to do speeches and a toast and they actually did! I think it was nice but you know its not needed.

Our venue is having a complimentary toast for us. At the last wedding I was in they didn’t do the toast at all and nobody even noticed or cared.

The best man does comedy, so he'll be doing a standup set instead of a toast. Everything else will be said at the rehearsal dinner.

Toasts/speaches are a big thing in my circle but it is normal for them to be restricted to just the wedding party and/or those who are asked to give one. We had 4 short toasts durring our reception: Best Man, Maid of Honor, Father of the Bride, and Officiant (who was also the best friend of the groom). All 4 of them wanted to give a toast and had already started writing theirs when we asked them if it was something they wanted to do.



That being said, it is completely optional and not something I would miss if it wasn't included in a wedding I was attending.

We didn't do them. I don't think anyone really misses toasts (which so often end up being speeches).

We did go to a wedding where they opened the mic for anyone who wanted to say a few words, and it went on . . . and on . . . and on . . .

My future in-laws are handling the rehearsal dinner, so whoever gives a toast there is their call. Our reception is going to be my dad giving a toast/ blessing before dinner, MOH/ BM toasts/ speeches during or after the first course, and then FH will probably do a short thank-you to everyone afterwards. Definitely not going to be an open mic situation.

The best man and my MOH decided to give speeches.

i've been to weddings before where they were skipped - some people just aren't big on public speaking and that's ok! i was ok if none of my bridal party wanted to do it too because i know some people get nervous about it

They're typical in our circle, so we are doing them. But we are limiting them. Just my father, the best man, and the maid of honor. And they've all been reminded that no one likes long speeches.

Thankfully, they are all on the same page with us for length and also the weird inside joke thing - it doesn't play well at any event when the person giving the speech is making it full of inside things that literally only them and the person they are talking about understand.

We also gave all of them the option of not giving one if they don't want to. My father wants to say a few words and my MOH has been planning her speech for about 10 years. The best man is my fiancé's little brother and he wants to give one.

We actually went to a family wedding a few months ago and both fathers gave a speech - my future FIL almost had a heart attack asking if he had to give one at our wedding. When we told him no, he relieved to say the least. Speeches can be great but if they are too long and too personal? Everyone's just bored.

We’re pretty sure we won’t be doing them. We’re very anxious people and I certainly don’t want that attention

Toasts are extremely common in our circle, so I'd probably notice if someone didn't have them. We kept ours to the MOH and best man and then H and I said a quick thank you to all our guests for taking time out of their lives to join us in celebrating. Each toast was under two minutes and were all done during the first course of the meal so it didn't take up time that would have been used for other things.

That being said, it's definitely ok to skip them.

I have been to weddings that had an exorbitant amount of toasts, those that have had no toasts at all, and everything in between. TBH, I am not a fan of toasts/speeches at receptions and find them incredibly boring. They usually bring down the vibe. So we won’t be doing them, save our thank you toasts to our guests.

We are leaving it open for anyone who would like to toast. We aren't the kind of people who like to have ALL that attention. Honestly though, we could go without the toasts. And since this is completely optional at a wedding in my opinion, you do what is best for you