I got married Feb 11, to save money we moved in with my parents for three weeks while our apartment was being prepared (long story). I had a hard time sleeping the first two weeks then adjusted fairly well to my hubbies snoring. Then we moved to the new apartment. I have only gotten a goodnnights sleep two out of 14 nights once when we went to bed at the same time he didnt snore and we both slept soundly. However most nights he refuses to go to bed with me. I can’t sleep with him in the livingroom even if he’s not making any noise with headphones on I feel anxious and upset that he is awake in the other room. I had the same issue when we were dating at that time I just refused to sleep over if he wasnt going to bed with me at the same time. I would just go home unless he went to bed with me. I used to try to sleep over and he would stay ip watching movies I had a hard time falling asleep and would sometimes get mad at him for staying up so late. Maybe its feeling abandoned? i have no idea. I was blaming him for my sleep problems but it could be partially I do not feel at home in our new apartment. Its too bright he likes it bright but I need dimmer lights to get ready for sleep. The window lets in too much light I am still disturbed even with sleep mask and earplugs and fan. We just had a time change also so thats effecting my sleep too. The apartment smells like fresh paint even though we air it out all day. I worry about the neighborhood, its five minutes from my work so i can come home at lunch to walk my dog but that means its close to a hospital and so we get ambulance and helicopter noise also there are allot of homeless people because its close to the beach and that worries me. I was thinking maybe I need to bring some smells from home. I was trying to get all new stuff because my husband has polyps and dust mite allergies but I cannot sleep. I went home to sleep at my parents house last night because I was so tired. I have a mood disorder and anxiety and I was afriad I would end up in the hospital or do something stupid if I didnt get a good nights sleep. I just don’t feel like I can relax at my new apartment. My husband has told me he expects me to do most of the housework since he is paying a larger share of the bills while I focus on paying down debt. This stresses me out. I feel like I am always picking up after us. We plan to buy a fomd out couch so he can sleep in the livingroom but Thats not the solution I want. Any suggestions? I am desperate.
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