Small casual wedding limited guest list.

Can you not add their husbands? I know me personally If I was invited somewhere and not my husband I wouldn't go.

I would personally just let them go if they want to otherwise that could create a very awkward work environment. They might decide they don't want to attend on their own because it is on a work night and their spouse can't attend.

I definitely would invite their husbands as well. I know you're wanting to stay small, but adding 2 more from households you've already invited won't add too much more to your guest count. Additionally, since it's a Thursday, your coworkers may be more likely to attend since they won't feel like they're missing evening time with their SOs.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your reply. I would like to invite them also but how do I do that after the invitation has already been sent out and the co-workers have already said yes?

View Quoted Comment I would just say to them that if they want to attend with their spouses they are more than welcome to.

From what I've read and understood, couples (especially married couples) are a social unit and should be invited as such. Like previous folks have shared, because your wedding is on a weeknight and these two guests are part of a unit with your coworkers, I'd recommend inviting 5hem for all the reasons mentioned above. Adding covid in the mix, they are from the same household so you should be ok there as well (with all safety measures in place)

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your comment the invites have already been sent out and these two ladies have already replied that they will be coming how do I extend the invitation to their spouses

View Quoted Comment Do you have their phone #s or see them at work often? I'd recommend just following up with a note or quick conver letting them know their spouses are welcome to attend with them if they'd like.


If it were me : "Thanks so much for your RSVP! Just wanted to let you know (husband name) is more than welcome to attend with you. Thank you for sharing this day with us and looking forward to celebrating with you soon!"

Spouses/significant others are an automatic invite. Call/text/email asap to make sure they know that their partners (regardless of how long they have been together) are also invited.

According to ettiquite, spouses are a given. My mom did have a coworker who could not afford for all the work collegues to bring their spouse. It didn't cause any issues.

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Like Veronica stated above, I would call/text/tell them in person that their husbands can join if they would like. "Hi __________, I know you've already RSVP'd for yourself, but I'd love to extend the invitation to your husband as well. Let me know if he'll join with you!"

" When we were talking finances, we agreed no SO for guests. But now we have realized how awful a decision it was, and are inviting them."

This is tough - you definitely should have invited husbands from the beginning. Especially for a destination wedding where travel and hotels come into play that's a lot of money for just one person and I hate travelling alone. That said, Are you close enough with the coworkers and them with each other to just talk about it? If the two coworkers are friends then maybe it's a fun trip for them to take together/without husbands. I'd just ask them flat out, "hey, I totally blanked and if you would like your husbands there they're absolutely welcome, but if you want a girls trip that works too, let me know!"