Small group to Vegas?

That's not a too small party at all. I would go with the dates that fits with majority peoples schedule, if you all can agree on one. But if someone doesn't want to take off a day from work you can't be upset with them.

On another note, the hotels in Vegas aren't expensive at all. Its the activities that you may want to do and obviously gambling that can get expensive. But they ALWAYS have deals in Vegas on the hotels and the pricing isn't bad at all.

I hope that you all are able to figure it out, because that would be one FUN weekend. I LOVE VEGAS

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Thank you! It's something I've always wanted to do but bringing it up with the girls had me worried. My mom told me the same thing with pricing and deals. I hope I can find a day we all agree on

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You're welcome. I would choose the date where majority of them gets to go, I know me personally I would rather miss 1 friend than miss 3 of them.

How long is your trip? I wouldn't expect my bridal party to do more than a weekend for that specific reason, they all would have to miss work.

View Quoted Comment No I just planned for a weekend but I wanted to fly down on Friday. I’m thinking we could work something out where we leave after work Friday and return Sunday night.

I don't think it's too small of a group! You would likely have an easier time making reservations for things (restaurants, activities, etc) with a group that size, and it'd still be a really fun weekend! I agree with a previous comment - choose a date that works for the majority.

View Quoted Comment Thank you!

Well, the good thing about Vegas is pre-pandemic there were a lot of red eye flight options. So if your friends don’t want to take off work they may be able to fly in late Friday or early Saturday. I know that doesn’t maximize the weekend for you, but at least you get everyone there.


I don’t think five is too small for a bachelorette! If you’re hoping to go clubbing at the more exclusive clubs though, just be realistic that you might not be skipping lines or anything. I think the even bigger groups of ladies only seem to get that kind of attention. So if that’s you’re vision, you might need to find another bachelorette group and combine forces! 😁

View Quoted Comment Haha I love the idea. We are all definitely flying so I think we can work something out ☺️

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Yes thats definitely doable that way people shouldn't have to take off work!

Vegas would definitely be a fun Bachelorette weekend. I dont think your group would be small at all. I hope you're able to find a date that fits for everyone so no one feels left out.

I'm not sure what you mean by "should I be more stern", but I think planning a destination bachelorette party is always going to come with the challenge of picking the best date for everyone and working within everyone's budgets. These are the reasons why it's best to let others plan the party for you (that way you know for sure they are willing and able to pay and attend).

But since you are planning it, I do think you need to scale back your expectations. Pick your dates, share the costs and all the details and then sit back and wait to see who is available/able/wants to participate. Then do your best not to show your disappointment to anyone who cannot come. People should be able to decide how to spend their time and money without stern talkings to from their friends.

View Quoted Comment Me too thank you!

View Quoted Comment No need to worry! I made it clear to them that I want them to feel comfortable with my choices. What I meant by that was “be more forward in what I want”. I have explained that if they want they can tell me their issues which is why I got worried with dates bc they were very open with me about what they wanted. But thank you for the concern💕! I enjoy being part of the plans and am not forcing them into anything.

If people do not want to take any full days off, then they should not be planning any overnight at all. Although there is a current fad for mini-vacations, the traditional usual thing is one afternoon, or one evening. If anyone does not want an overnight or a plan which requires a day off from work, r the cost of travel, meals and drinks, then you are expecting too much for this. This is something other people plan in he bride's honor, unless you are picking up full expenses for everythig for everyone, and for a bride to plan anything longer in time, or more expensive, is rude. It is asking for a gift of greater cost than the givers want to pay, and that is always wrong, in time or money. Since average day temp is 88-92 then, and covid status is not known, in advance, you might want to let go of this trip if they do not anything multi day that would mean time off.
Your wedding may be your only thing. But they may have multiple weddings, graduations, births, and a longer vacation in their year long plan. And time given to one shower, shopping, an evening RD, and a full day or evening wedding, may the max time they want to give to one person, for anything. They do not see it as short changing you, but having some time off and money for the rest of their spring and summer plans, that don't involve other people's special occasions.

View Quoted Comment Did you read my other comments? They were open about their budgets and I’ve been finding things they would be comfortable with. I also mentioned finding a way to do it without taking a day off. I also know their plans, we are VERY close. Thank you for the concern and I appreciate your opinion.

View Quoted Comment Actually, I did. 2 things, your questioning if you should be more stern, and saying you keep changing tings to please them and still don't have success or agreement, are red flags, often. Often people give excises for why they cannot do things, hoping you will drop it. Only to have a persistent person deal with every objection
When bottom line, they are looking for excuses not to go.
And if 5 people cannot be got into agreement quickly for a trip to Vegas, I think maybe you should see how much they want it if you back off from organizing it. ... And wondering if you ( or you and mom) should be more stern, I think means you are thinking of giving them a push. And frankly, the reason brides and their mothers are supposed to stay out of shower and batch planning is because so often they push people into doing things and spending money they do not want to. If the women wanted to do this, they would be planning it. Not putting up an objection every time you think you can make it work. It is supposed to be a gift from them, not something you direct them to do. If you back off, no more push, will you go at all?

View Quoted Comment Ok thank you for the input! I appreciate it 🥰 I will look into it