Small wedding help!!!

That sounds cozy and relaxed but still wedding like to me. However, you could have a local restaurant cater the Italian food to make it easier on you and make it feel less like a dinner party, more like the wedding you want. Music also tends to set the mood so maybe focus on a playlist for dinner and drinks. Do you want dancing? You don't need a lot of people for that. Even if it's a small one, cakes are what almost everyone thinks of when they think of a wedding. Food, something to drink, and the people you love make a wedding reception and it sounds like you already have that. Maybe you just need to fine tune a few things.

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Thanks so much that makes me feel better this whole thing has been stressful with me being a perfectionist when it comes to planning anything. I know we are defintely still doing the first dance, father daughter dance ect. But up until your point about maybe the music will help it feel more like a wedding I was almost thinking of getting rid of the rest of the music for that night because it almost seemed like it was not needed for this small of an event. But I will be keeping that for sure now. And yes I think I do want dancing. Before we decided to have a DW the main thing that we wanted for the whole wedding was a big reception we were so for a big party to celebrate our marriage. It just seemed like I don't get that now that we decided this was our best route for the cost. Again thank you so much your ideas have really helped me think of this more as a wedding even when it did not feel like it before.

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We are all here for each other. Bottom line is it's your wedding. What you and your future spouse want or don't want to include is what makes it a wedding. I can overthink things too and want everything to be perfect even though we all know nothing ever is. It sounds like you and your guests will have a great time. Enjoy and remember that weddings receptions are simply about celebrating your marriage. How you choose to do that is what makes it special and unique.

Omg! I would be sooo excited to have a wedding of that amount! So many details you can focus on. For example music selection, drinks ( if your planning on having any) signature cocktail, wedding cake flavor, place cards, even small centerpieces! I would even make small welcome bags for the guests staying with you. Don’t let this disappoint you, it’s an opportunity to make every little detail count.

View Quoted Comment The thing I love is how I can make everything. And I definitely plan on making welcome bags for every room. Were getting an 8 bedroom house for everyone. And thanks for the idea didnt think of all the other little details I can put into it this way

Many weddings are exactly like that, that is the wedding. Ceremony, family and friends being together, enjoying a meal afterwards. Will there be any sort of dancing whether its a DJ or even just an ipod hooked up to speakers with a picked out playlist? If that beach allows any kinds of bonfire you could do a s'mores dessert bonfire or other activity. Maybe there's a company in the area that can offer some kind of wedding appropriate service or activity to bring a little something more to what you're wanting or envisioning. Are you a DIY person? If so then you can find ways to add more of your colors or theme to everything, make it feel more wedding like. Its all up to you. If what you're doing doesn't fit your vision then figure out what's missing and find ways to get what you would like.

We're having a small wedding, too -- about 35 people. We aren't having bridal parties or dancing at the reception, but other than that, it's got all the trappings of a bigger wedding. We hired a florist, guitar player, photographer, we're having a champagne toast and cake cutting. The officiant is customizing the vows for us and we're having a handfasting ceremony). We're having programs and place cards. I made favors (key chains that match the handfasting cords). The great part is with small numbers, there is so much less stress and it is so much less expensive. Don't feel like it's less than just because you're keeping it small.

I actually think with a small wedding you can do so much more and go all out for your guests. That's what we did. We had 40 guests and splurged on them. We paid for their accommodations for the weekend, and treated the reception like any other. We had a cocktail hour with a ton of passed apps and a few charcuterie stations, had a multi-course plated dinner, a 5-piece dinner band, and then a 9-piece band for dancing, which the guests loved and danced all night. We also had a photo booth and 2 late night snacks. We were able to personalize each favor for the guests too. Then we had a farewell brunch the next day. You can do so much with your small wedding! If I were you I would hire a catering company to cook for you all weekend and that provides servers who can serve you and your guests and clean up too. That would make everyone feel so special and you can relax knowing your guests are taken care of.

Nothing wrong with small weddings. I have been to a few small weddings and it was very cozy and intimate. We all had a blast!

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Thanks for the tips. I am now looking into catering for the day of the wedding to save my mother and grandmother some time that day. I can't do catering for the whole time because I can not afford at all to do catering for a whole week. As the family is staying the whole week (Saturday- Saturday our wedding is on a Wednesday.) But I do understand the whole you get to do more with the details. Like I said we are paying for everyone to stay in myrtle beach and paying for all their food. The only thing that they will be paying for is their way to get there. Except for a couple guest who are paying for them selves completely. And they understood that from the beginning (my best friend and she just really wanted to be there for my wedding). I just feel like with so little people i is like a vacation. Granted we wanted that for it because his family has never been on vacation before and I come from a very spoiled back ground.

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I am so glad that they can be a blast. Is there anything that you could remember that made them feel like a wedding. Except for the ceremony of course. That way I can try to invision this a little bigger. Ive only been to 2 weddings and they were both huge

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Everyone was just dancing and having a good time

I'm planning a small DW also. My fiance and I decided on Portland Oregon. (we live in Houston)

We are expecting about 25 people and I totally agree with you that the planning has no longer been fun for me. We are getting married in August 2020 and have had to change details so many times because most of the things we wanted dont really make sense for such a small wedding. One of the things I decided to do was not get married on the propert we are staying on. I want to be able to get ready and actually drive to the wedding ceremony and reception space. This to me feels more like a wedding day than just a family vacation. We are planning to have dinner somewhere nice and intimate where we dont have to do any of the work. Just sit back and celebrate with our loved ones.

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Thanks for the ideas, yeah for the most part I am DIYing most of the wedding. I know I am making welcome bags for everyone. And trying to figure out exactly what I want to do for center pieces and what not. I think my problem is it almost feels like I dont get all the fun stuff when it comes to a wedding anymore. Like yes I get the music and the cake and what not. But I dont get the big party feel of a reception that I always wanted since it is so small and pretty much just the really close family.

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I am defintely glad that I am not the only one that feels the fun of planning is gone. The only reason I am okay with getting ready at the house we are holding the reception at. Is I still get the walk to the beach to get the ride to the ceremony feel. And Ive actually started looking into going some where for the dinner or finding a resturant that does some type of catering. It just doesnt seem as fairy tale with having such a small wedding. If that makes any sense.