My FH and I are discussing having an EXTREMELY small wedding. Like our parents, a photographer and maybe 1 or 2 of our best friends.
The problem is with his Dad's girlfriend. While I really like his dad, he has a.... questionable girlfriend. I am not a fan, neither is my FH, and neither is anyone else (besides his father) it seems. Friends his father has had for years are questioning this relationship and can't stand to be around her.
I can't seem to get over the fact that she is a user (his father has money). She seems to constantly be talking about what he's bought her or where they're going next, things like that. She's even still MARRIED, and on her and only on my future-FIL's one year anniversary did she finally decide to even FILE for a divorce.
She's never been overly nice to me, in fact most of the time she's been quite a B to everyone, and it's getting worse the longer they're together. She seems to think she's now becoming entitled to certain things his father owns (property, his home, recreational vehicles, etc) and has recently been trying to remove some of his best friends from his life.
I wish it it was as simple as "no plus ones because we want to keep the wedding small "(even my best friend has said she understands if her husband of many years isn't invited) but his father is EXTREMELY stubborn. I fear if we say no to her, his father will refuse to come and will stop speaking to us. Nobody can tell this man to do anything it seems, except for her, and my FH and I are at a loss.
His mother and father had a very nasty divorce nearly 25 years ago, but I still have yet to meet his mother (yes, really) so I can't even weigh in on her at all OR her husband. FH and I have been together 2 years, he hasn't seen her in over 3, and has talked to her only twice this year so far (once for his BD and once for our engagement).
It's almost getting to the point where we're discussing having NOBODY at the wedding besides an officiant and a photographer. My FH is so sweet, he even told me we can just secretly just have my parents and not his, but that's just not fair or right I feel like. He loves his dad and his mother too, regardless of their issues.
I love my FH but I want this day to be about US and I just really don't want her anywhere around. I also love my parents and they're a huge part of my life and I can't imagine NOT having them there. But I just don't know what to do... We're doing this super small wedding to focus on just my FH and our love for each other. Nothing else, no drama, no annoyances, nothing else.
Is this something I'm just gonna have to suck up and accept she'll have to be there? Do we invite nobody, not even my parents, because of this? Am I being completely unreasonable? I'd love some input, thank you so much.
