Small wedding processional

We are having a small wedding also. So I am going to answer #3 on your list of questions:

Our venue only allowed 40-50 people max. This turned out to be a blessing for us so no one could get too upset about not getting invited. After a lot of discussion, we decided to be the only ones standing at our wedding (plus the officiant marrying us). We thought it would look ridiculous to have 1/3 of our guest list standing. Let me just say, that decision turned out to be one of the best decisions we made. It cut out a lot of unnecessary stress and drama. We chose a color scheme and let everyone pick out whatever they want to wear as long as its our color. No one is upset about titles because everyone there is extremely important to us. No one is upset about who they are getting paired with. No one is complaining about clothes. We aren't worried about our wedding party getting fitted in time or any of that. It's so nice! When asked about our wedding party, we tell people how excited we are to have the most important people in our lives there to be a part of this special day, but if we had our wedding party standing up with us there wouldn't be anyone left to watch.

I'm only sharing this so you know its perfectly fine to have your wedding party sit in the seats at your small wedding instead of standing. I've also been to weddings where only the MOH and BM stood with the bride and groom. The rest of the wedding party walked in pairs like normal, but sat in the two rows (leaving space for the parents in the very front row).

So yes, I think it'll be weird to have half your wedding standing and the other half sitting. BUT, your wedding day is YOURS. So do it the way YOU want it. If other people don't like it or suggest something you don't want, kindly remind them that would be a great suggestion for their own wedding and you will support them fully when its their turn.

My son & dil had a 17-person wedding party at their smallish (80-90) wedding 5 years ago, and while I thought it was a little crazy, it was what they wanted, and it worked for them.